Innehållsförteckning för November 2015 från Fairlady

OK, guys, gird your loins for the last stretch – the end of the year is ne-e-e-e-a-arly here! Every year feels like the hardest one yet, but this year the plummeting Rand and escalating crime statistics don’t help. The thing is, I don’t believe the crime statistics are a true reflection of South African people in general. Visitors always comment on the warmth, humour and hospitality of all the South Africans they meet – and 90% of the time, that’s my experience too. There are so many more people out there who are well-intentioned, rather than bad; there are so many more who want to build this country up rather than tear it apart, and there are so many more who want peace than who choose violence. But one of…

Liesl Ramlal (left) and her husband have three young children and had been married for almost eight years when the cracks in their marriage started to show. They sought counselling and even tried reintroducing regular date nights to repair the growing distance between them, but eventually they agreed that the relationship was over. A friend referred Liesl to attorney Manndi Schuld, one of only two South African attorneys who trained in collaborative law in the US, who then presented her with a radical new approach to divorce. ‘Collaborative’ divorce may sound as ethereal as ‘uncoupling’ – the cosy break-up strategy made famous by Gwyneth Paltrow and her ex Chris Martin – but it’s far from a pop-psychology solution to divorce. It’s a structured approach that’s designed to support couples through…

Some time after we’ve survived the ‘mean girls’ at high school and had our hearts broken properly for the first time, a shift begins to happen in us. We start to ignore that little voice of authenticity inside and put our best face forward. And so begins a habit of people-pleasing that’s hard to shrug off – because being liked or popular, well it just feels so damn good! The rise of social media isn’t helping matters. We are now not only editing our real-time selves, we’re also carefully curating versions of ourselves on the various social media platforms to earn more ‘likes’, shares and virtual endorsements. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be accepted and feel loved by those we socialise with. But, if we are all…

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Deluxe hummus sarmie Makes 4 sandwiches FOR THE HUMMUS 1 x 400g can chickpeas 2 garlic cloves 2 tbsp tahini 2 tbsp extra-virgin olive oil 1–2 tbsp water Salt & milled black pepper FOR THE CARAMELISED ONIONS Olive oil 1 onion, thinly sliced Salt & milled black pepper 1 tbsp balsamic vinegar 1 tsp brown sugar 1 x 400g can artichokes, drained & sliced 100g marinated cooked sweet peppers 50g rocket leaves 8 thick slices of seed bread 1. For hummus: Blitz all ingredients until smooth and creamy. 2. For onions: Heat a little oil in a pan. Fry onion until golden; season. Add balsamic and sugar. Cook over low heat for 5 minutes, until caramelised. 3. To make sarmies: Spread hummus on each slice; layer the bottom slices with…

You will need: 4 x 180–200g beef fillet steaks FOR THE FILLING: 8–10 pickled jalapeño halves 200g cream cheese 1 garlic clove, crushed 3 tbsp finely chopped parsley 1 tbsp wholegrain mustard Salt & milled black pepper Olive oil for drizzling Fresh rocket salad for serving MAKES FOUR STEP 1 Preheat the oven to 190ºC. Using a small, sharp knife, carefully make an incision in the centre of each steak to form a 1,5cm pocket in the middle. STEP 2 Scrape out any excess seeds from the jalapeños to reduce their heat; you can leave them in if you prefer it spicier. STEP 3 Combine the cream cheese, garlic, parsley and mustard and season well. Fill each chilli with a teaspoon of the cheese mixture. STEP 4 Carefully stuff each…

Greek yoghurt : Plain yoghurt is strained through muslin or cheesecloth to remove excess liquid, and develops a thick, velvety texture. Used in many Mediterranean dishes, greek yoghurt’s also the main ingredient in labneh, a soft cheese from the Middle East. Sprouts: Best eaten raw, sprouts add texture and crunch to salads and sarmies, and they pack a healthy punch too! High in fibre, they’re a good source of omega 3 and calcium. They also boost metabolism and assist with weight loss. Blueberries: Regarded as a superfood thanks to their antioxidant properties, blueberries may help prevent cancer and memory loss, as well as promote heart health by removing bad cholesterol from the blood, according to scientists.…

The Democratic Republic of Braai by Jan Braai The maestro is back, with divine recipes that are sure to make you light up! From Braaied Camembert and Peri Peri Espetada to classic cheesecake made over the fire, these dishes will get you into the spirit of summer and braaing. From R295; at selected retailers A Taste of Israel by Nida Degutiene Take a culinary tour of Israel as you page through this gem of a cookbook by freelance writer and blogger Nida Degutiene – from everyday meals made in Israeli homes to gourmet restaurants and the country’s vibrant street food. From R375; available at selected retailers…

Ask Linda van der Poel DipCABT (NOCN UK) CertCABT animal behaviourist and positive reinforcement trainer Q I have a nine-month-old Labrador who eats anything and everything (chilli, herbs, all types of fruit!), has torn up countless mattresses and anything that looks like bedding, and digs huge holes all over the garden. Please help! I have sprayed everything from citronella oil to bitters and peri-peri oil on outdoor furniture, to no avail. No pet shop or vet has an answer. Hope you can help! Linda: It sounds like you have a typical adolescent Labrador, digging and chewing his way through life. Labradors are a working breed, selected to use their mouths when they ‘work’, which is why this hardwired behaviour persists, albeit inappropriately. To prevent further damage, provide an outlet…

The biggest, most exciting and inspiring magazine event to hit our shores, hosted by South Africa’s leading women’s magazines. During the month of February we will be all about Home and Food, and you can take your pick from various events and happenings hosted by your favourite magazines in Gauteng and Cape Town. That’s right: 30 days of food & drink 30 days of ideas & inspiration 30 days of celebration & celebrities 30 days of giveaways & promotions 30 days of shopping & discounts The February countdown culminates in a fabulous 30 Days of Home + Food live weekend and you are invited to come and meet your favourite magazine team and experience the pages of our magazines coming to life in front of your very eyes. buy your…

winning letter ‘I learned what I could accomplish despite my fears’ I recently returned from completing the Marathon des Sables (MDS) in Morocco, named ‘the toughest footrace on the planet’ by National Geographic. I learned what I could accomplish despite my fears. By standing up and facing that which cripples me, I was able to overcome everything the desert threw at me – including temporary blindness. The MDS is a 7-day multistage self-support footrace of 250km described as ‘more hellish than hell’ by Sir Ranulph Fiennes who has also participated. I competed and finished the race for the women in my family, especially my daughter, to show them what you can accomplish if you don’t give up on your dream and if you have the perseverance to see it through.…

The Pretty Blog (www.theprettyblog.com) Owner: Christine Meintjes START-UP COSTS: ‘I put in about R10 000 and my partner at the time matched this. Most of this went towards website design and development. You can start with less, but we wanted something that looked very professional and we were willing to invest to achieve that.’ TURNOVER: Quite good, but it wasn’t easy getting to this point. ‘I’ve been in the wedding industry since I was 14,’ says founder of The Pretty Blog, Christine Meintjes. Back then, she assisted a wedding photographer at the weekend by carrying bags and making sure each bride’s dress was perfectly poofed for the shoot. The experience ‘formed the foundation of a very eager little entrepreneur and photographer inside of me,’ she says. Christine completed a Visual…

Caroline caught our attention because she came out of nowhere. Not only that, but with the help of her coach, Lindsey Parry, she won the Comrades unconventionally, with strategic walk breaks – even stopping to use the bathroom! Back in 2007, Caroline was an average working wife and mom. ‘After I had my first child that year, things were so chaotic. The days were merging into one – I think many moms can relate. I felt I’d lost my identity in a way. A year after my daughter’s birth, I still couldn’t fit into my clothes. I thought, “This isn’t how I want to feel. I want to be healthy and look in the mirror and feel good.” I decided the best way to take control of the situation, with…

Fat-shaming. The word explains itself, and sadly, it has become so commonplace a practice that the Oxford English Dictionary recently added it to their lexicon: ‘fat-shame (verb): cause (someone judged to be fat or overweight) to feel humiliated by making mocking or critical comments about their size’. Fat-shaming is nothing new, however. A Life magazine article on the rise of obesity, published in the 1940s, features telling captions such as: ‘Bulging at beach in 1949, 197-pound Dorothy [Bradley] self-consciously leaves locker room for swim. She covered up embarrassment by being jolly and gregarious’. Another reads: ‘...Dorothy tries on new dress. A friend encouragingly points out that dieting has reduced waistline by two sizes.’ Only when she trims down to 70kg do the comments change their tone: ‘Now down to 155…

‘Oho, it’s a girl,’ parents who’d been there, done that said when my downy-haired daughter was born. ‘Enjoy it while you can – you won’t know what’s hit you when she turns 14.’ Over the years I scoffed at these words whenever I remembered them. My daughter tottered contentedly through toddlerhood; she was the life and soul of her pre-school; and she was a leader and achiever in primary school with packs of friends and a following of fawning boys. Then she turned 14 and the honeymoon ended. She started squeezing into shorts she’d outgrown two years before. She scribbled all over her arms and legs with magic marker to make it look like she had tattoos. She ignored curfews and wafted in (somewhat unsteadily) at all hours, reeking of…

Drinking a Place in the Sun wine with its hints of sun-ripened fruit and bright, bold flavours doesn’t only taste good – it also feels good. That’s because Place in the Sun is a Fairtradeaccredited wine. It contributes premiums to pay for community upliftment projects. Seventy cents from every bottle sold goes towards farmworker social advancement, meaning that every time you enjoy these juicy, spunky wines, you are supporting the educational, recreational and health initiatives for the people making the wine – not bad for a wine that’s also produced by an expert winemaking team, in the award-winning Zonnebloem cellars, and with grapes from the famous Devon Valley in Stellenbosch. This summer, unwind with the wine that looks on the bright side – Place in the Sun.…

SUMMER FEET Smooth legs? Check! Pedicure? Check! Summery sandals? Check! We say if the sun is out, the sandals should look just as hot! TROPICAL Palm tree foliage, hibiscus florals and bold colours bring a touch of paradise wherever you are this summer. BAG IT! For the beach, the old faithful striped carryall still wins hands down. Chuck all your beach necessities in it and get outside! (R135) JOY HEADS UP! Take cover in chic headgear that protects your face but also looks ultra-glam on your lounger. TRIBAL Bring out the global traveller in you with tribal-inspired prints and patterns. The bolder, the better. Look for added elements like beadwork too. NAUTICAL You can’t go wrong with the old red, white & blue. There’s only one rule: no horizontal stripes…

We love a beauty comeback, and thanks to celeb selfies, hashtags (hit #face-mask and see what happens) and innovations coming out of Korea, face masks are having a moment! The hype hasn’t been lost on local beauty brands, which have launched specialised masks for our climate and skins. Environ Alginate Masque has a gum-like texture and is all about refreshing, hydrating and soothing the skin. As it’s in Environ’s Professional range, you’ll need to sit back in a beauty salon (tough job!) to reap the benefits. The mask is also applied over the eyes and mouth and is used as part of an Environ Purifying Vitamin Therapy facial. A low-voltage galvanic current is connected to the mask and, through a process called pulsed iontophoresis, vitamins in the mask are able…

It’s that time of year when our thoughts turn to presents – whether it’s to say thank you to your child’s favourite teacher, or a colleague who’s been particularly supportive and helpful. Master chocolatier Kees Beyers and his expert team have been handcrafting South Africa’s finest luxury chocolate for 28 years, using only the best ingredients to create a range of luxe yet affordable quality chocolates for everyone to enjoy and share. Their Chocolatier’s Collection boxes are available in a variety of flavours to suit every taste, which means they make the perfect gift, whether for a special someone or simply as a gesture of thanks to someone who makes a difference in your life every day. It’s a gift guaranteed to melt their hearts.…

Raspberry mule Serves 4 200g raspberries (fresh or frozen) 60–80ml vodka Juice of ½ lemon ½ cup sugar syrup (see box) 500ml chilled ginger beer to top up 1. Place the raspberries into a cocktail shaker and muddle until soft. 2. Add the vodka, lemon and sugar syrup and shake until well blended. 3. Divide mixture between 4 serving glasses; top up each with ginger beer. 4. Garnish with mint leaves and a few raspberries and serve immediately. Blueberry whisky lemonade Serves 4 1½ cups sugar syrup 150g blueberries 2 cups chilled lemonade Juice and zest of 1 lemon Mint for serving 1. Place syrup and blueberries in a saucepan and simmer for 5 minutes, until the berries are soft. Gently press through a sieve and leave to cool. 2.…

LE CREUSET ICE CREAM BOWLS: Perfect for serving any summertime treat (how about our decadent vegan ice cream sundaes on page 104). R290 each from Le Creuset stores nationwide McCAIN: Don’t have the time (or inclination) to peel and prep veggies? McCain’s new range of frozen veggie side dishes includes a butternut mash and cauliflower bake that are easily reheated, and a tasty creamed spinach that can be taken from frozen to fork in less than 10 minutes! From R26,99/ kg; at selected retailers VITA COCO: Vita Coco waters are a healthy way to quench your thirst. Look out for Vita Coco Coconut Water, along with flavoured versions that are blended with natural fruit juices and purées and are ideal for lunch boxes. R21,95 (330ml); available from selected Woolworths stores…

How to: REFRESH A ROOM Bored with your living space? You don’t have to break out the sledgehammer to get a completely new look – sometimes small details make all the difference. 1. A LICK OF PAINT A new wall colour will transform a room. Not up for painting all the walls? Choose a feature wall, change the colour of trims or doors, or paint an old piece of furniture a fun colour. Or, paint the insides of a bookshelf. 2. MAKE A MOVE Move things around a bit: group chairs together, or create a reading nook with a comfy chair, a standing lamp, an ottoman and a little table. You could also swap paintings around. 3. SMALL CHANGE Think new scatters, lampshades, curtains, frames or a new rug. Even…

True Blue Superglue By Jenny Hobbs (Umuzi) Anne and Doug meet at university in 1950s South Africa, and from that point on it seems their future is set. Doug, an aspiring lawyer, has it all mapped out. They will both have successful careers, slowly climbing the ladders of their respective fields. And they will raise a family together. After his studies at Oxford the couple marry and move to London, where Anne thrives at a new magazine for modern women, working as a food writer and later also as an agony aunt. She works under the pseudonym Annie Butterfields, a name intended to signify domestic bliss. The reality, though, is quite different. Doug and Anne, now the parents of three, struggle with the demands of work and family life and…

WHEN: Friday to Sunday 4–6 March 2016 WHERE: Gallagher Estate, Midrand in Jhb • Visit us at our electricity-free lounge (we thought we’d beat Eskom to it) for a chat, to relax, pick up a few solar ideas or play a board game. • Buy your tickets* in advance for only R150 from www.30days.co.za and choose to attend the morning or the afternoon session. • Suzelle DIY Demo times: 12pm and 17.30pm each day * TICKETS NEEDS TO BE BOUGHT IN ADVANCE. NO TICKETS AVAILABLE ON THE DAY.…

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SCORPIO 23 OCT – 21 NOV Been dodging around commitment issues? You can dodge no longer. The time has come to decide what you want. If you don’t, someone else will – and you certainly won’t like that. Business and personal relationships will have to be sewn up by the Scorpio New Moon on the 11th. Meanwhile, if you want more intimacy, create special moments. Likewise, if space is needed, explain. Not everyone is a mind-reader, you know. And being the creative genius you are, you’ll find a novel way to communicate your message. SAGITTARIUS 22 NOV – 21 DEC Wondering why you no longer want to base-jump off the Eiffel Tower? Don’t fret. Your spiritual seeker is taking over. Look for fun ways to make friends with your soul.…

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SENSAI’s Cellular Performance range with Koishimaru Silk tackles signs of ageing and enhances the skin’s silkiness. The Double Moisturising ritual replenishes moisture by priming and hydrating with a Lotion, then nourishing with an Emulsion, resulting in a radiant, revitalised complexion. The Eye Contour Balm combats sagging, dark circles, puffiness and dullness, plus fine lines and wrinkles.…

AT some point in your life, you’ve probably thought about what it would be like to meet a royal and be swept off your feet, twirled in a designer gown and have a sparkly tiara placed on your head. But what if it actually happened to you? What if you actually went from independent nobody to cossetted (and tightly controlled) royalty? Would it really be the kind of life you’d like to live? It’s interesting that Kate, more than any other royal, makes us think in these terms – and it might be because she’s a ‘commoner’, just like us. Well, more or less. Even though she wasn’t part of the aristocracy, as Diana was, she certainly comes from an extremely wealthy background (despite the fact that the press refer…

Look out for Suzelle at the FAIRLADY stand at 30 Days of Home + Food – a spectacular event in Joburg in early March next year! We love your interesting outfits and accessories. Where do you shop for them? At Mr Price, but I make a lot of my own accessories. How many pairs of shoes do you have? 17. How do you keep all your jewellery from getting tangled? I have lots of hooks and see-through containers to keep everything organised. How long does it take you to do your bun? Do you have a tip for making it look so full or do you just have a lot of hair? I do have a special trick for my bun. If you’d like to see how I do it…

Your medical scheme or hospital plan takes a huge chunk out of your monthly income. It’s easy to see why it’s called a ‘grudge purchase’: you know it’s the wise thing to do, but it’s difficult not to dream about the great things you could do with the money. Plus, the increase in medical scheme contributions outstrips salary increases and normal inflation rates every year. And benefits seem to decrease. A hospital plan for one person currently costs about R800 to R1 100 per month, and full medical cover anything from R2 500 to R3 500 per month, depending on the scheme and the option. But can you do without it? Here’s what you need to know about full medical schemes, opting for a cheaper hospital plan, going for a…

Main ingredient Eskort Rindless Streaky Bacon R28,99 (200g) at major supermarkets nationwide Serves 4 2 kassler steaks Olive oil for brushing 400g streaky bacon ½ cup mayonnaise 1 tsp wholegrain mustard ½ garlic clove, crushed 4 bread rolls 2 large ripe tomatoes, thickly sliced 2 butter lettuces Salt & milled black pepper 1. Brush kassler steaks with oil and fry in a nonstick pan for about 7 minutes on each side until cooked through. Remove from pan, slice and set aside. 2. Cook bacon until golden and crispy and keep warm. 3. Combine mayo, mustard and garlic together in a bowl. Cut the rolls in half and spread mayonnaise mixture on the inside of each roll. 4. To serve: Arrange the bacon, tomato slices, lettuce leaves and slices of kassler…

4 quick ways with DESICCATED COCONUT FRESH SALSA This is the ideal accompaniment to any curried or spicy meal, with a dish of plain yoghurt and some fresh naan. Deseed and dice 2 ripe roma tomatoes and place in a bowl with 1 cup de-seeded, diced cucumber, 2 finely sliced spring onions, 2 tbsp finely chopped fresh coriander, ¼ cup desiccated coconut and 1 deseeded and finely chopped chilli. Stir well to combine and season to taste. Top with fresh coriander leaves. COCONUT TRUFFLES Mix together 1 cup condensed milk, 1 cup icing sugar and 2 cups desiccated coconut in a bowl until well combined. Shape teaspoonfuls of the mixture into balls and roll in a little coconut to form truffles. Serve in pretty mini paper cases for a teatime…

Gugulethu Wine & Lifestyle Festival: From 6–8 November. Gugs will be going glam for this year’s event, with hundreds of wines and spirits available to taste. There’ll also be a beer tent and loads of street food and fun activities on offer. Not to be missed! Tickets are R120, www.gugulethuwinefestival.co.za Groote Post Country Market: Held at Groote Post estate near Darling on the last Sunday of each month from 10am–3pm, this market has plenty of great wine and food stalls and fun activities for the whole family. Go to www.grootepostcountrymarket.co.za for more information.…

Devon-based Lesley Pearse became a published author at age 49. Since then, she’s penned 23 novels over a period of 21 years. Without a Trace was published in May 2015. I always finish things, even if I finish badly. Once I’d written Georgia [her first novel], I kind of felt that it could be a bestseller. I believed that I had it in me… But it was still a lovely surprise to find that people loved it. My latest novel begins on Coronation Day. When I was a child, this occasion was very memorable. I started thinking, what if you went to look for someone and you found them dead? Then it went on from there. I love history. Once I actually decide on a theme or a period, I…

There are moments when life comes to bash you in the face and remind you that you can’t plan for anything and you are an idiot if you try. This is what happened last weekend, when I realised that my plan to raise a gender-neutral child had failed completely. It was my daughter’s third birthday party, and she insisted on hosting it dressed in a massive pink tutu and ballet shoes, making her look about as unfeminine as a fallopian tube, and roughly the same colour. She also looked so sweet, and so proud, that I found all my feelings surging up at once, like when everybody puts their kettle on at half-time during the World Cup final. It wasn’t that I had intended to rear a child about whom…