Innehållsförteckning för May 2019 från Fairlady

The way New Zealand’s prime minister, Jacinda Ardern, conducted herself after the shocking massacre of 50 people in two Christchurch mosques made me realise I’d almost forgotten what proper leadership looks like. She didn’t take weeks to set up a commission of inquiry or need to ‘apply her mind’ or consult with any ‘stakeholders’ – she was just very clear, very fast about her thoughts on the horrific attack and what she was going to do about it. ‘Many of those who will have been directly affected by this shooting may be migrants to New Zealand; they may even be refugees here,’ she said. ‘They have chosen to make New Zealand their home, and it is their home. They are us. The person who has perpetuated this violence against us…

Formerly known as Jinger Jack, ZEMP offers a variety of genuine leather handbags, travel bags and wallets as well as watches, polarised eyewear and speciality items with optional monogramming. Creativity has always been the essence of this ever-expanding brand, from collaborations with the FEDISA design school to ZEMP’s Design Safari collection, their monogramming and engraving services and Made to Your Order programme. HAMPER INCLUDES: A Blossom Waxy Tan handbag and Sofia Waxy Tan wallet, each with monogramming ☞ WRITE TO letters@fairlady.com…

DIAMOND IN THE ROUGH I spotted these exquisite earrings in a little jewellery shop in Cape Town while moseying about on my lunch break, and I just love the unique design: they’re diamonds encased in a block of clear epoxy resin and they’re from local designer Nunc. Truth be told, I can’t afford them, but I still find myself popping in there just to look at them. Hey, a girl can dream! Liezel Glossed over I’m not a big fan of lipstick but I LOVE a good gloss. And the Dior Addict Lip Maximizer Hyaluronic Lip Plumper just became my new all-time favourite: it has a cooling minty feel on the lips and contains hyaluronic acid, so it’s really moisturising. The colour (012 Rosewood) is beautifully subtle: it gives you…

‘Remember, don’t smile!’ My husband seemed just a tad anxious as he prodded me forward to passport control at Vnukovo Airport in Moscow. We’d been told explicitly not to smile at Russian officials as this would elicit nothing but suspicion and mistrust (‘My feis make you laff?’) It also didn’t help that the thickset, dour-looking female passport official was bringing to mind every Russian stereotype I’d ever encountered in a Cold War spy movie. She looked as if she was born to play ‘Russian Official Who Drags You off to Prison for a Minor Infraction’. I stepped forward and meekly pushed my passport through the opening, keeping my face politely blank. Despite my travel agent’s reassurances, I was still worried about entering the former Soviet Union without a visa. She…

One of the joys of living alone is that you can read, read, read, without feeling guilty that you are being anti-social. There are many writers who have paved the way for women to strike out on their own. You may have your favourites, but among the books I turned to when I was learning the business are these: GIFT FROM THE SEA BY ANNE MORROW LINDBERGH (Pantheon Books). Timeless wisdom, reprinted many times, from a woman who needed some space to think. THE COMFORT TRAP BY JUDITH SILLS (Penguin). The subtitle is, What if you’re riding a dead horse? The best advice for being brave. A FIELD GUIDE TO GETTING LOST BY REBECCA SOLNIT (Penguin). Essays on voyaging within. Two must-read novels on navigating a difficult world: ELEANOR OLIPHANT…

‘Winning the FAIRLADY Woman of the Future award proved to me that the work my team and I are doing is being recognised and celebrated. It is so fulfilling to know that people appreciate the positive impact that can be realised by caring for our planet. Winning this has also inspired other women in my network to follow their own passion to make a difference!’ ‘Winning the FAIRLADY Santam Women of The Future Social Entrepreneur Award introduced my work and Africa Teen Geeks to a new audience and contacts I wouldn’t have met otherwise. They’ve become my advisors and supporters. I am proud to have the FAIRLADY Santam Women Of The Future Social Entrepreneur award on my profile.’ ‘I am so grateful to have won the 2018 FAIRLADY Santam Rising…

oh, sweet thing  We hope you’re planning an indulgent, celebratory Mother’s Day lunch that includes at least one of the glorious cakes on the next few pages. And if you do, a chilled glass of South African dessert wine on the side would be just about perfect! We’re really good at dessert wines in this country: Klein Constantia’s Vin de Constance and Groot Constantia’s Grand Constance are consistently right up there with the very best in the world. They’re also ferociously pricey, so be warned. Dessert wines aren’t cheap, but when they’re good, they’re really something special. Also, they can be hard to find – the best place to get them is often online from the farms. A ROSÉ BY ANY OTHER NAME Never been a huge fan of rosé,…

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CHICAGO I knew this musical was going to be good – I loved the music and the choreography in the movie – but I was absolutely blown away by it. The all-South African cast has been touring internationally (and getting rave reviews) for nearly a year, but the show feels so fresh and energetic I thought it had just opened. It’s in Gauteng this month and if you can see it, you absolutely must: it will make you really proud to be South African and remind you of the vast wealth of talent and energy there is in this country. It’s absolutely outstanding! We reprint this every time we have an election, so here it is again - a poster that was part of the Lead India campaign fronted by…

GROWING PAPER ‘We made the paper, printed the paper, cut the paper – and we did all the marketing.’ ROXANNE SCHUMANN & NILETA KNOETZEN START-UP COSTS: R400 000–R500 000 TURNOVER: R3,5 million ‘Going Green’ may be the biggest new trend, but Growing Paper has been ‘the seed paper people’ since 2010. The company has created stationery that goes far beyond its original purpose: when you no longer need the invitation, tag or birthday card you’ve received, you just water it and pop it in a planter where it will grow into flowers, vegetables or herbs. Made from 100% recycled materials and seeds, Growing Paper is the baby of Roxanne Schumann and Nileta Knoetzen, two friends from high school who put their heads together to create a business based on sustainability…

NETHERLANDS HEALTH TIP Find balance Less than 0.5 percent of people in the Netherlands work more than 50 hours a week, according to the 2018 OECD Better Life Index. This gives the Dutch the best work-life balance out of 35 countries studied. Researchers at the University of South Australia found that regularly working nights or weekends takes away time that is traditionally spent with family, engaging in social and community activities, or taking time for rest,’ says researcher Dr Natalie Skinner. CHINA HEALTH TIP Drink green tea Green tea is a staple in China, and with good reason. Drinking just one or two cups a day has benefits, thanks to natural compounds called catechins. UK researchers believe a catechin called EGCG helps reduce the build-up of plaque that damages arteries…

We all have someone in our lives who knows how to push our buttons. They know enough about us and our triggers to manipulate them – which means we haven’t self-regulated well! On the extreme end of the spectrum they’re Shakespeare’s Iago and Machiavelli’s The Prince in literature; in politics they’re the men in the shadows stalking the upper echelons of power, or they’re that frenemy, relative or colleague skilled in the art of manipulation. What they have in common is that they’re all skilled in cognitive empathy – they can intuit what you are feeling without actually ‘feeling’ it – in other words, in a detached manner. According to Goleman and others, there are three kinds of empathy: cognitive, emotional and empathic concern. Good leaders usually possess all three…

1. A down jacket. Fact: you’ll be wearing said jacket in all your holiday snaps, so go for a neutral colour to make it less noticeable. (I learned that the hard way – mine is red.) Down makes all the difference and allows you to be outside (and relatively comfortable) for an hour and a half to two hours in below-zero temperatures. Moneyed Russian women, of course, wear fur. 2. Layering is the key to staying warm. The Russians don’t overheat their buildings so you won’t go from Siberia to the Sahara every time you set foot inside. 3. Lined boots with non-slip soles – the variety is much bigger in Russia, so buy a pair there. I picked up a pair for a mere R340. 4. Proper long johns.…

According to the Population and Development Review of 2018 (Wiley Periodicals, Inc), the factors contributing to the increase in one-person households, particularly in the developed world, include higher education, financial independence, increased longevity and better health. South Africa, which they classify as a rapidly developing nation, has seen a ‘substantial’ rise. Globally, there are more women than men living alone. It’s reported from the UK Office for National Statistics that in the age group 45–64, figures rose from 1,59 million in 1996 to 2,43 million in 2017. In that year Canada had an unprecedented number of adults living alone, and in the US the numbers of adults without partners rose to 42% of the population. Being divorced or widowed plays a big part, but so do changing views on marriage…

Drinking tea should be meditative, a ritual, says Craig Cupido, tea sommelier at the Belmond Mount Nelson Hotel. For absolute enjoyment hold the teacup with both hands, drawing it close to your nose and slowly breathing in the aromas. This, he says, is how you form a connection with the elements contained in the tea and fully engage your senses. ‘When buying tea, check the tea estate that manufactures it (China, Japan, India and Kenya are renowned for their estates), and look out for the presence of “tea flower”, aka camellia sinensis, to ensure that it is a good-quality tea,’ Craig suggests. If you’re keen to try something new, Craig recommends these health-boosting brews: GYOKURO (JADE DEW) Gyokuro is a Japanese green tea grown in the shade; as a result…

Q: I’ve struggled with sinusitis all my life and have noticed that my 10-year-old daughter is experiencing similar symptoms. Is it contagious? If so, how do I prevent transmission? A: Sinusitus occurs when inflammation of the nasal passages causes swelling which blocks the upper airways; mucus then doesn’t drain away and causes pain and a runny nose. It’s often hard to work out why this happens, but sinusitus in children is usually the result of a combination of allergies, viral colds and lots of glandular tissue at the back of the nose. It isn’t possible to pass it on, but it is possible to pass on the colds that cause it. More commonly, because she’s your daughter, your nasal passages may be similarly predisposed to sinusitis and you may share…

SHADY BUSINESS A pair of cat-eye sunglasses bring some retro glamour to any look – from a basic jeans-and-tee combo to a printed vintage-style dress. ONE OF A KIND When you find a standout piece like this, with its unique print, subtly sexy detailing and form-flattering cut, there’s no need to try and style it up; stick to simple accessories and let the dress do the talking… HIGH HOPES A high neckline and a bold, embellished belt translates into a very sleek ’80s look. Try a plain belt if you’re going for something a bit more understated. REMIXED Mixing prints can be intimidating. Dip your toe into the trend by pairing prints of different scales (i.e. a large floral print on top and smaller print on the bottom) and sticking…

• FORTIFIED WINE is usually made by adding brandy to a wine before it finishes fermenting – which means it has more residual sugar (RS) as well as a higher alcohol content (between 16.5 and 22 percent). TRY: Nuy Wit Muscadel 2017, R372 • UNFORTIFIED WINE is made without adding anything to the wine, just using a sweeter varietal, harvesting the grapes later when the sugar is more concentrated or letting the grapes dry a little first (think how sweet raisins are). Try: Tokara Reserve Collection Sauvignon Blanc Noble Late Harvest 2016, R300, or Steenberg Constantia Natural Sweet Semillon 2017, R195 • PORT-STYLE WINE Since 2012 producers outside Portugal haven’t been able to use the word ‘port’ to describe sweet wine (like ‘Champagne’, it’s become an indicator of origin as…

Taurus 20 Apr – 20 May A springboard appears magically – at exactly the right moment – which means you’ll have to take a leap of faith. Jumping into the unknown isn’t everybody’s cup of tea, least of all yours, but the universe applauds courage and you’ll make it unscathed to the other side. Don’t be afraid and for heaven’s sake drop the coyness; you’re thoroughly deserving of good fortune. Gemini 21 May – 20 Jun With your intellectual capacity cranked up a couple of notches, the world is an oyster bed of opportunity – especially on the work front. The time is ripe for adding qualifications, tackling demanding courses, flirting with a new skill and generally bending your mind into shape. This clever-clogs phase is a blessing – take…

✽ WINNING LETTER Moral support A question about Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) in the January 2019 issue prompted me to write in. The question was about AA not having as high a success rate as a Finnish system that does not insist upon total abstinence. Any addict should abstain from the substance they’re addicted to, and any support group is valuable – I’ve been part of an AA family support group and have found it well worth it. But at the end of the day we need to return to society and our homes, and start coping with daily life – this is where a programme like AA is so valuable. While the 12-step programme starts with the assertion that the sufferer is powerless against the addiction, it doesn’t state that…

Q: What made you want to work with Dolce&Gabbana? A: They represent strong, empowered, happy women, and an authentic Italian feeling that I feel really proud to be part of. Q: What do you love about the new The Only One fragrance? A: It has some really beautiful notes that just linger in a room. It’s a very seductive smell and it definitely has power. It also has a richness that I love. Smell is a really powerful sense and familiar smells can hold such memory. Finding a fragrance is one of the most fun things you can do! You have your clothes and your makeup, but you need to take time to find the fragrance for you. Q: How does it feel to be back on set with Matteo…

Numerous external factors have the potential to throw your new business off balance, which is why you need to make sure you’re controlling the things you can. Here are some practical tips. 1. Be financially secure: Create a financial plan and stick to it. Boost your income, cover your risks and save. 2. Learn from successful colleagues: Mirror the leadership traits your role models use to effectively manage their businesses. 3. Become a trailblazer: Here it’s imperative to keep your finger on the pulse, so you can point the way for other people seeking to break into your industry. Take the risks and change the environment for those following in your footsteps. 4. See criticism as an opportunity for growth: You’ve poured your blood, sweat and tears into this so…

When you think of IKEA, what springs to mind? Minimal, Scandi design? Assemble-it-yourself furniture? These impressions are all, of course, based on books and movies – the Swedish retail giant has yet to branch out to African shores. For their latest collection, however, IKEA tapped into the contemporary African design scene for some fresh inspiration. Late in 2016, 10 African designers were flown to Switzerland for the first meet-and-greet and to collaboratively come up with a design concept. ‘It was quite conversational, like a lot of friends getting together,’ says architect-designer Renée Rossouw, one of the chosen creatives. Diverse as the group was, they all shared a common, uniquely African ethos: giving back. ‘All people on this continent have something that hyper-urbanised cities do not have: an intimate relationship with…

Sam Beckbessinger is not a financial advisor – and she’s not trying to pass for one either. ‘I’m never going to tell you what to invest in,’ she says. So if you were hoping her book would help you become a millionaire, you’d be better off listening to some Tony Robbins or Robert Kiyosaki podcasts. Sam has, however, spent the last 10 years gathering as much information as she could about the seemingly complicated and scary world of finance. ‘My superpower is taking complicated concepts and explaining them in a really simple way,’ she says. ‘That’s what I do in this book.’ For her, money equals freedom – and that means you need to educate yourself about it in order to take control of your life. Sam didn’t really worry…

INTERESTING USES FOR TEA: 1 It can soothe sunburn, nicks and scrapes, and can relieve tired eyes. 2 Don’t discard used tea leaves; use them for composting for improved soil quality. 3 It absorbs odour – soak your feet in it or place a bowl of loose leaf tea in your fridge to combat food smells. 4 Tea can also be used to flavour food. For light, clear soup, use green tea; for a thick broth, use a black tea or smoked black tea.…

PRIMERS Step one is all about creating a smooth, even canvas for your masterpiece. Primers come in a variety of formulations so it depends on what you’re after, whether it’s an extra bit of glow, a boost of moisturisation or something to blur lines and fill in pores. Mattifying primers: If your face tends to look like an oil slick by midday, this one is for you. It will help to reduce shine and control sebum. Colour-correcting primers: Kill two (or more) birds with one stone with a colour-correcting primer: tinted primers help with an ashen appearance, discolouration and redness. Illuminating primers: Skin looking a bit dull and dry? Illuminating primers create a glowy sheen that will show through your foundation and give your skin a radiant finish. You can…

BEEF BOURGUIGNON FOR 8 Although beef bourguignon is very tasty, the meat can be dry. The secret to moist, tender morsels of wine-soaked beef is to leave the meat on the bone until the end of the cooking process, and to allow sufficient marinating time. A cut of beef with plenty of connective tissue to dissolve during cooking, such as good old-fashioned stewing chuck on the bone, is best. • 2kg beef chuck, on the bone • 45ml good olive oil • 500g bacon, diced • 6 cloves garlic, peeled but whole • 500ml beef stock • 500g baby onions • 2 carrots, sliced into circles • salt and pepper • 50g butter • 500g small button mushrooms • a handful of fresh parsley, chopped • zest of 1 lemon,…

It’s Mother’s Day, so celebrate with a fabulous chocolatey, indulgent tea... These gorgeous cakes will steal the show. CHOCOLATE HAZELNUT MERINGUE CAKE SERVES 8–10 Prep time: 40 min. Baking: 1hr20min (plus cooling) Dense and fudgy chocolate cake contrasts beautifully with feather-light chocolate meringue in this moreish cake. Serve it with crème fraîche to round things off perfectly. • 250g dark chocolate (54%–58% cocoa solids), finely chopped • 150g butter, diced • 6 egg yolks • 50g brown sugar • 1 tsp vanilla bean paste • 30g plain flour • 20g Dutch-process cocoa, plus extra for dusting • ¼ tsp baking powder • 30g hazelnut meal • coarsely chopped roasted hazelnuts and chocolate curls, to serve • crème fraîche (optional), to serve CHOC-HAZELNUT MERINGUE • 4 egg whites • 80g…

Dr Paula Byrne is the founder of ReLit, a UK charity that advocates bibliotherapy for mental health. ‘The ancient Greeks used poetry as therapy and Queen Victoria drew comfort from the works of Alfred, Lord Tennyson when her husband died,’ Dr Byrne says. ‘Books can relax and calm; they can offer wisdom, humour or both.’ The science backs it up: the journal Clinical Psychology & Psychotherapy published a 2013 study of 96 mildly depressed patients, all of whose depression was alleviated by reading fiction or poetry. According to The New School for Social Research, one reason could be that reading fiction helps with our Theory of Mind – our ability to see other people’s point of view or empathise with them, even if their beliefs or behaviours are different to…