Innehållsförteckning för February 2019 från True Love

I must admit, I’ve always dreamt of seeing Tbose and Mapaseka Mokwele together on a magazine cover. Being a huge radio fan (yes, I wait excitedly each year for new line-up announcements), both their shows rate tops on my must-listen list. Tbose’s show is an excellent and easy way to start the morning – I like the throwback love jams, peppered with his words of wisdom on how to get or maintain a relationship (the spicy sex conversations are a must!). As I wind down in the evening, helping the kids get ready for bed and prepping for the next day, Mapaseka sets the tone with her no-nonsense and – sometimes controversial – feminist stance on relationships and how women should demand to be treated well (You go, sista!). What…

The statement belt is the one accessory spotted on just about every runway. Using a belt to cinch your waist can help break up the look and add much-needed contrast. Wear a belt with a flirty dress, an oversized shirt or under a masculine blazer to help create the illusion of an hourglass shape.…

Fashion Ed's Style Tip: The perfect lingerie mustn't only be amazing to look at, it must fit well too! Go to your nearest lingerie store and get a free fitting consultation. Hello to looking sexy and feeling amazing! Exude all kinds of sensuality like Kefilwe Mabote in a fitted Orapeleng Modutle couture bustier. Lingerie that can actually be worn in public? Bring it on! If you're shy, throw on a sheer cover up. Bodysuit + Shorts = Sexy Streetstyle Our fav lingerie models of all time!…

Bald-headed and gap-toothed, Slick Woods prowls the fashion runways like a lioness, always on the lookout for new ways to slay. Born Simone Thompson on 13 August, this Leo is the epitome of female cool, with an androgynous "less is more" sense of style. As a typical Leo, she loves the limelight, but this new mom — her son Saphir was born in September 2018 — is breaking new ground in an industry that can be isolating and brutal. She's bisexual and told Elle UK last year she never thought she'd be a mother. This has given her a new purpose in life as she realised she's able to create a life, "whatever you want that life to be," she said. Her son's father, fellow model Adonis Bosso, is an…

ISSA RAE Type 4B Coily Hair Issa’s strands are thickly packed with a z-pattern, and the hair is naturally soft but prone to dryness and breakage. Make sure you keep the coils refreshed and hydrated at all times because the coils are thicker. TIP: Use gentle cleansers and lots of moisture. Deep condition frequently. CRYSTAL KASPER Type 3C Curly Hair Crystal’s curls are packed very tightly and close to each other, forming corkscrews, which results in great volume. TIP: Avoid heat — use stretching techniques like buns, twists or braids. Use a curl enhancer, wash once a week and moisturise often. AMANDA DU PONT Type 4A Coily Hair Amanda’s hair is s-shaped, tightly coiled and fine textured at the same time. The coils are tightly packed on her scalp, resulting…

The truth about real-life relationships is that, unlike what we’re sold in fairytales, happily-ever-after isn’t always guaranteed. Apparently, the secret to a successful relationship is to operate like a scale. When one partner goes through a phase of being ‘disinvested’ in the relationship due to life events, the other puts in the work (and vice versa) to keep the love scale in equilibrium. Even though they’re fully aware of it, Kaya FM on-air personalities and entrepreneurs Thabo, aka Tbose, and Mapaseka Mokwele, are a tad uncomfortable with being described as #MarriageGoals, a popular social media hashtag suggesting that a couple’s union is the closest thing to perfection, therefore rendering it challenge-free. In fact, the first thing they caution me about prior to our two-hour sit-down at Signature Restaurant in Morningside,…

I’M AN EASTERN CAPE GIRL AT HEART “I was born in Port Elizabeth and my parents still live there. I’m a middle child with two siblings – an older sister and younger brother. I took a gap year after matric and it’s then that my interest in media was ignited, which is odd becase I’d always wanted to be an accountant. To keep busy, I waitressed and read the news at the local community radio station called CBFM. I went on to study public relations at P.E Technikon (now Nelson Mandela University), and later drama at AFDA. Yes, I was in varsity for seven years straight [chuckles]!” ENTERTAINMENT PROVIDES ESCAPISM “The intrigue with the entertainment industry and why I choose to stay in it is the sense of escapism it…

MANDISA ZWANE, 27, Publicist “We were young and perfect for each other. We did everything together — gym, going to work, cooking, holidays — and genuinely enjoyed each other’s company. Because we were clear about what the future held for us, we even moved in together. Three years down the line, I discovered he was a pathological liar and had been living a double life. It turned out he’d been dating someone else for six years and, according to his family, had planned to propose to the other woman. All of this while we were still dating. At that point, my father was expecting lobola too because, hell, we were living together. The entire situation was a sad mess. I broke up with him and tried to move on, but…

1. Don’t have expectations. If your partner is shocked when you use dirty words the first time, don’t think you’re the problem. They probably still need to own that part of themselves. So, give them time. Remember not to worry about the other person more than you. Worry about how dirty talk will make you feel. Sex is about putting yourself first. 2. Don’t be ashamed to describe your feelings and desires. Vocalise these and ask your partner what he’d like to do to you. Using text can also help when you’re a newbie to the act of talking dirty – and in the long run, you’ll start being more comfortable. 3. Drop your ‘good girl’ obsession. Take on different personas and bring your fantasies to life through naughty words.…

Even South Africans hardened to headlines of death were left stunned last October by news that hip-hop icon Jabulani Tsambo, AKA Hip Hop Pantsula, had gone – allegedly by his own hand. As outpourings on social media made clear, it was especially painful so soon after the suicide of acclaimed cardiologist and UCT Dean of Health, Professor Bongani Mayosi. HHP, 38, was found in his bedroom. According to The Sowetan, in his final hours he had said: “I’m depressed. I’m going out of control. I’m losing it.” It wasn’t the first time the rapper had spoken that way. In an interview on CliffCentral two years earlier, he described attempting suicide three times, even visiting a suicide website for information on how best to do it. The inability to end his…

In her pre-teen years, growing up in Durban’s Umlazi township, Zama Khanyile observed the numerous possibilities the accounting profession held from their then-neighbour, Sizwe Nxasana — now co-founder of the Future Nations Schools brand. “Former First Rand CEO Sizwe Nxasana was one of the first black Chartered Accountants (CAs) in the country. He established the first black-owned audit practice in KZN, and he and his then medical doctor wife, Dr Judy Dlamini, were doing very well for themselves. They were the only people I knew with a swimming pool elok’shini. This made me curious as to what they did to earn the respect of many and afford such a life of comfort,” she recalls. Witnessing how people who’d followed this career path had access to way more than the ordinary…

The popularity of funeral covers in black communities would have you believe we are obsessed with “burying our loved ones with dignity”, when the reality is that most black people are playing catch up and are uninformed about what comprehensive financial planning entails. It takes financial planners years of study to understand product structures, their benefits, the markets they are designed for, the legislation and how to plan around them. Experts stress that you also need to equip yourself with similar financial education when it comes to policies and investments, so you can make better insurance and investment choices. NEED FOR FINANCIAL POLICIES People often think that a policy is something that would benefit them when they die, says Noma Shinga, a senior financial planner at Standard Bank. “They don’t…

You feel incomplete when you are single: Try new activities and focus on things you’re good at, so you are constantly affirmed by the things you love. Spend time with those who genuinely care for you to relearn the meaning of true love. You stay in a relationship that no longer serves you: Relationships should be mutually beneficial instead of one person sacrificing everything for it to exist. Be accountable to yourself. If you do things that betray your character and vision, reconsider the attachment. You hate your own company: You feel miserable and equate being alone with loneliness. Try out soul-fulfilling activities like travelling, journalling, reading inspirational books and watching inspirational DVDs. Self-affirmations are powerful tools for personal growth and development. You believe that dysfunction is normal: You think…

Gym can be intimidating, and the pressure to look cute while sweating is high. There’s also the added anxiety of appearing like you know what you’re doing! Actually, you don’t need to wake up in the wee hours of the morning to exercise. You can workout without ever stepping into a gym. You also don’t need to sweat for hours – a moderate workout for 45 minutes, to keep lifestyle diseases at bay is enough, says Lucky Mazibuko, a fitness instructor and founder of Pulse60 Fitness. “By completing 45 minutes of moderate exercise per day you can reduce your risk of a heart attack and stroke. You can also manage a healthy body weight, lower your blood cholesterol and the risk of some cancers. Not only does keeping active reduce…

What are some of your earliest food memories? Cooking during family gatherings. I was always the first one in the kitchen. I grew up in Nelspruit, in a small village called Tsantsabela, and spent most of my teen years in Sabie. What was your first job and where does your passion for cooking stem from? My first gig was working in a club/bar when I first moved to Jozi during my varsity days. Having to fend and cook for myself, I grew to love it and wanted to cook more for myself and others. I even started creating new recipes and exploring with food. Who do you look up to in the food industry? I have a whole list of chefs I look up to, but Ree Drummond and Neil…

1. If the ‘no drinking before midday’ rule is null and void when you’re on holiday, then you’ll love the self-service bar, which stays open around the clock and is included in your package. 2. The river safaris are part of the package and will take you to many viewing spots on either side of the river. One of my favourite sites was at Impalila Island where four countries, Namibia, Zimbabwe, Zambia and Botswana, as well as two rivers, Chobe and Zambezi, meet. 3. An all-inclusive package covers all meals, including a 5-course dinner, afternoon high tea, complimentary Wi-Fi, return road and boat transfers. 4. There are no TVs in the villas, but a private viewing can be arranged in one of the conference rooms. 5. Optional activities include 3-hour…

Movies WHAT MEN WANT Release date: 8 February When career-driven Ali (Taraji P. Henson) doesn’t make partner at work, she tries various ways to get the upper hand. A crazy girls’ night out lands her in the emergency room and she wakes with the power to hear men’s thoughts and ‘what men want’. Hilarious! THE UPSIDE Release date: 1 February Based on a true story, this comedy drama puts together ex-convict Dell (Kevin Hart) who needs a job to prove to the court he’s on the right track, and Phillip (Bryan Cranston), a billionaire quadriplegic who needs assistance. A heartwarming friendship develops. Stream THE GIRL FROM ST AGNES S1. Set in the KZN Midlands, a popular student is found dead at the base of the old mill. The…

I was born into a musical family. I believed I could hit those high Mariah Carey notes, and always used any opportunity to prove to everyone that I could sing. Growing up, I joined singing and dance groups like Sarafina, Mango Groove and Boom Shaka. It didn’t matter that I was in the background, I just wanted to sing and dance. My dreams scare me because they’re very ambitious. But, the more impossible they appear to everyone else, the more motivated I am to go for it. The SHE VOL 1 album was inspired by the Waiting To Exhale soundtrack. I realised that we’ve never had an all-female album in SA. As female artists, we’re always squashed somewhere between the guys. We…

Here are some fab outfit ideas to help bring out the playful seductress in you! Catch up on some all-time favourite romcoms.…

Sending flowers in the month of love has just taken on a new meaning. Here’s a bouquet of elegant accessories in the form of bags, earrings and shoes. Jazz up any outfit with these eye-catching accessories. Depending on their size and style, floral earrings can make you stand out no matter the occasion or time of day. A LITTLE FLORAL SPRITZ GOES A LONG WAY…

Fighting fatigue, shedding a few kilos or getting healthier skin — these are just some of the reasons why IV drip treatments have gained popularity all over the world. We asked Sayed Mia, REVIV SA CEO, to unpack what this treatment is all about. WHAT EXACTLY IS IV DRIP THERAPY? "Intravenous (IV) Therapy is treatment that's administered through injections or infusions, delivering liquid substances directly into your bloodstream through the veins. That means you absorb all the minerals or vitamins directly without losing any in your digestive system, as you would when taking vitamin pills." HOW EXACTLY DOES IT WORK? "IV therapy helps replenish your system with essential vitamins, minerals, amino acids, electrolytes, antioxidants — what you should be getting from a balanced diet, exercise and enough rest. Let’s face…

Laid edges have taken over! In music videos, fashion runways and magazine covers, celebs are smoothening out their fine hairs. Even Beyoncé can't get enough of hers, as she sings about it on Formation. Edges are those very fine, soft hairs around the hairline, and come in different forms — short, long and curly, depending on your texture or hair type. Here's how to make sure yours play along! BEAUTY THROWBACK No one laid her edges better than Chilli from girl group TLC — she's the queen of baby hairs.…

Have fun together and make your own mistakes. When you do falter, try sort out the mistakes together before roping in the elders. Don’t start your marital journey with fear or worry as your basis. If you aren’t friends first, how are you aiming to have a relationship. Relationships go through cycles — there are times when the intimacy will subside, but the friendship is what will sustain the relationship. Prayer is a healer in our marriage. We have an unwritten rule about who sleeps where — whether at home or in a hotel. As the protector, Tbose takes the side of the bed closest to the door. Every Sunday without fail, we sit and have our ‘seven colours’ lunch together. We allow each other space, with no guilt trips…

Lesego ‘LesDaChef’ Semenya is a kid who grow up in Soweto. I’m the first born in a family of three boys. My mom was a principal, and my dad a maths teacher. I grew up in a family of authoritarians. Seeing my dad and my mom share chores around the house was normal. That my dad would sometimes cook wasn’t an odd thing, and as a result, my brothers and I learnt how to take care of ourselves early on. That upbringing led to what I eventually became — a chef. Making a career transition is like jumping off a moving hot air balloon without knowing where you’ll land. You get off, but aren’t quite sure what’s coming next. At age 20, I enrolled for a BCom degree at Wits…

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The internet defines dirty talk as ‘the practice of using graphic word imagery to heighten sexual pleasure before and during sexual intercourse’. For some, it’s a sexually pleasing language that allows us to take on different personas, lose ourselves and explore our ‘naughty girl’ selves – all in an effort to excite our partners, as well as reach our highest sexual peak. So, for those that have never explored dirty talk but are aroused by the thought of tapping into this erotic art, don’t worry – help is here! MIND F*CK “It all starts with the mind,” says social dating and pleasure coach Makabelo Motaung, stressing that the brain is the most powerful sexual organ. “It’s more powerful than what has been deemed, biologically, as our sexual organs. If you’re…

Work smart and play harder. You can’t avoid hard work or challenges — there’s always that investment you must make to achieve positive results. There’s no quick solution. Consistency is key and excellence is a daily practice. Habits are built over time for them to become second-nature and part of your character. Rise to the challenge and take opportunities. I always say that people think opportunities come looking like achievements, when they come packaged as hard work. To really test and push yourself, seize those moments and they will, in turn, make you stand out. It’s not entirely what you know, but also who you know. And most importantly, it’s what those people know about you. The more you move up the ladder, recruitment and opportunities…

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1 GET ACQUAINTED You actually have to look down there below to get to know your vagina better, says Dr Abigail Lukhaimane, a gynaecologist based in Fourways. You must know what it looks, feels and smells like so you can make informed decisions. If you don’t know your healthy, normal vagina, how will you know when something is amiss? “Many women don’t actually know their own vaginas and feel pressured by what they see in magazines or social media and assume theirs is ugly or not right. We have different types of vulvas and labia. So what’s normal? If you know what it usually looks like, you can pick up if there’s a rash or some discolouration. Just get acquainted with your vagina,” Dr Lukhaimane encourages. 2 USE FEMININE HYGIENE…

“Let me start off by saying that my husband is a beautiful soul, which may be confusing considering that he’s the same guy whom being married to hasn’t been fun. We make a great money-making team, but sadly, the home front hasn’t been anything to write home about. Sometimes, just because two awesome people are in a relationship, doesn’t guarantee that their union will be an automatic success. Our personalities are too different, and I’ve come to accept that he might make someone else happy in the future because I’m not selfish. I’m a nurturing lover, which is also not a good thing, because I tend to completely forget about myself. But now, I’m ready to speak out because 40 is about to hit me in the face, and I…

SIMPLY ZOLA: THE JOURNEY CONTINUES by Zola Nene, Penguin Random House, R290 Not one to shy away from daring flavours, Nene shares her latest creations. Unpretentious and delicious, the easy-to-prepare meals will have you wanting to cook them again and again. Expect refreshing DIY drinks and desserts to satisfy the sweetest tooth. This book is great for breaking out of your culinary shell and introducing your palate to new tastes. THROUGH THE EYES OF AN AFRICAN CHEF by Nompumelelo Mqwebu, Self-Published, R440 This book is an ode to Africa’s culinary excellence. Mqwebu celebrates traditional African cooking methods with an emphasis on nutrition and substance. Each recipe is authentic, and offers aspiring cooks unique ways of creating fuss-free, yet mouthwatering meals using fresh ingredients. THE CAPE MALAY COOKBOOK by Faldela Williams,…

CHILLI FISH BALLS Serves: 16 Prep time: 30 mins Ingredients 300 g hake fillets Bunch coriander, chopped 4 cloves garlic, finely chopped 1 cm ginger, crushed 1 small onion, finely grated 2 fresh chillies, finely chopped 1 potato, boiled and mashed 2 eggs, beaten 1/3 cup flour Salt and black pepper METHOD 1. In a blender, mix hake, coriander, garlic, ginger, onion chillies and mashed potato. Blend until smooth. Season with salt and pepper. Add one egg and mix well. Using a spoon, scoop mixture into palm of your hands, roll into ball shapes. Place on a tray and set in the fridge for 5 minutes. 2. Heat oil in a deep pan until hot. Dip fish balls into egg, then flour, then egg again. Fry for 10 minutes. Remove…

AQUARIUS 20 Jan – 18 Feb From the 10th, state your expectations, don’t leave it to chance. Some deals seem heaven-sent, but are they? Push your creativity – use the social networks to your advantage. Love: Your delightful charm unlocks passion. If single, flirt with wild abandon, then you can escape into your private love sanctuary. Work/Money: Network unashamedly – sell your talents. Self-marketing is not a bad thing. Don’t be shy – chase your dream, abundance is on your doorstep. PISCES 19 Feb – 20 Mar Your birthday is the perfect time to make new resolutions – be precise and state what you want, the magic’s in your hands. Go for gold. Love: Be the star of your love show. Put your insecurities aside and feel…

Give your intimate wear an overhaul with high-waisted lace briefs, garter suspenders and bodysuits Bedroom mix Bring sexy back by adding Moses Sumney’s Aromanticism to your playlist. The album explores romance in all its contemporary glory.…

Red Glow Nothing compares to red lipstick – it’s classy and stunning. To achieve this look, you’ll need two items – lipstick in a red shade of your choice, as well as a dark red lip liner. Draw the liner around the border of your lips, then follow with the lipstick. That’s it. Now go and paint the town red! Metal Detector Rihanna went full-on metallic for this look. While it complements lighter complexions better, but you can also give it a try if you have a darker tone. Use a highlighter, with more pigments, on your cheeks and a bit on the jawline instead of a bronzer. Finish off the look with a brown metallic lipstick. Eye-catcher Never underestimate the power of eyeliner. On this look, RiRi applied it…

READER: KEDIBONE TAGANE Name & Surname: Kedibone Tagane Age: 35 Occupation: Entrepreneur “I knew that a makeover would give me a chance to reinvent my style, and try something new and fresh!,” says Kedibone Tagane. MAKE-UP “I love that Kedibone was willing to give anything a try, which gave me room to play. One of her outfits was pink, so I decided to go for rose gold eyeshadow and finished the eye look with a cateye, which I achieved with a liquid liner. I applied gold bronzer on her cheeks just to give her that edge, and then I topped it with a subtle nude lip shade,” says make-up artist Nthato Mashishi. HAIR “Kedibone has dreadlocks, so wearing a wig was something new to her. My first option was a…

Step 1 It doesn't take much to lay your edges. You need just two items – edge control gel and a toothbrush. Step 2 Brush your baby hairs towards the forehead and then to the sides. Apply some edge control on the fine hair. Step 3 Slowly brush it to the shape you desire. This could be a curl like Yara Shahidi, a squiggle like Zoë Kravitz or just keep it simple like Pearl Thusi. Beyoncé's OTT edges on her Lemonade album cover.…

Who’s the most romantic between the two of you? Mapaseka: It’s definitely me. He’s learning though, 17 years later [chuckles], but there are days when I have to remind him. He threw me the most beautiful, intimate 40th celebration in 2016, with Maleh as the guest singer. Thabo: I’m more of a pragmatic and take-care-of-the-home-front kind of guy. If the basics are not covered, then I definitely don’t entertain any frills. Why do you want the icing when there’s no cake? We must never take the ‘opposites attract’ dogma lightly. I can’t imagine how my life would’ve turned out had I settled down with someone who’s as goal-driven as me. What do you miss the most when you’re away from each other? Mapaseka: The most miserable times for me are…

South African versus Asian cuisine… SA, by far! My all-time favourite musician… Anthony Hamilton — he’s very relatable. I’m tired of… People who aren’t chefs calling themselves that. My house smells of… Drying biltong and all the other food I make. In essence, my house smells like home. On a daily basis, I cook… Oats! Memorable food experience… Man, there’s just something about magwinya.…

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THULI MABUYA*, 41, RESEARCH HEAD “Dirty sex is very necessary in my relationship. It spices up naked time and helps loosen us up. For me, it’s important to talk as dirty as I want. Dirty talk from porn movies is not for everyone. Other people prefer to paint erotic pictures rather than talking like a sailor. The trick is to do it your own way and have fun.” NOMFUNDO ZONDI, 27, ACCOUNT EXECUTIVE “I’m in a long-term relationship, which also happens to be long distance. I cling to any and everything that can keep the fires burning and the chemistry electric. Do away with all gender normative noise about talking dirty. It’s not just a fantasy for men! Sex should never be a riddle – tell your partner what you…

You can’t give what you don’t have. Rather focus on investing in yourself and your knowledge in order to create wealth, Selesho advises. Make sure your partner takes their progress seriously. People who are dedicated to improving themselves won’t pass on their money problems to others because they know how to utilise support while redeeming themselves. Don’t compromise on self-development. People who continue to improve themselves earn more, know how to spot opportunities, and are driven by their passions. Be with someone who is kind and accepting. They’re less likely to judge you when you make mistakes, especially of the financial kind.…

Information on suicides is not systematically tracked by any agency in South Africa, and many go unreported, making accurate statistics hard to come by, says SADAG. But in terms of what’s known, it says: Suicide is now the leading cause of death in South Africans aged 15 to 29. 10% of all unnatural deaths in adults and 9.5% in youth are because of suicide. There are at least 23 suicides a day, nearly one an hour. One in four teens has attempted suicide. Four times more males commit suicide than females. 70% of those who attempt suicide have a mental disorder, most commonly depression. 75% of people will not get the mental health treatment they need. South Africa has the 6th highest suicide rate in Africa: about 11.6 out of every…

I’d been working in corporate for roughly 10 years and in 2017, I reached a crossroads in my career. It was brought about by many things – fatigue and frustration being the leading factors. I’m ambitious, which means I’m always looking for the next thing to conquer. I spent two years asking myself – what next? Where do I go to from here? What position do I see myself in next? With no clear answers, I decided to take a 12-month sabbatical and resigned from my job. I wanted to reflect and figure out how to move forward and what steps to take next. I needed to figure things out without any external pressure. During my break, I spent hours on my couch or in coffee shops, reading ferociously –…

We all probably have a friend or know someone who “refuses” to be single. To them, being in any type of relationship is more important than being alone. This need to be coupled runs so deep that, even when they are dating, there’s what we call an “assistant boyfriend” waiting in the wings to become the “main man” should the current one ever mess up. And when the former “assistant boyfriend” gets promoted, they go on to find a new standby. There comes a time in life when you’re expected to be in a serious relationship or dating with the aim of landing a life partner. The result, according to Psychology Today, is that our romantic relationships leave us mentally, emotionally and physically drained. The answer, says clinical psychologist Dr…

Author of Raising Grateful Kids In An Entitled World, Kristen Welch tells a story about how she and her husband decided that they were going to buy their three children their first pairs of cowboy boots – a rite of passage for kids growing up in Texas. She recalls how they budgeted and were looking forward to the day when their offspring share in their excitement for this big reveal at the cowboy fair. All was well until they were on their way back home and one of the kids started complaining about something that they didn’t get to do at the fair that day – while wearing their new boots. This is a familiar scene with a lot of parents. We find ourselves working harder, making more financial sacrifices…

ROASTED BUTTERNUT, SWEET POTATO AND CHICKPEAS MOROCCAN CURRY Serves: 4 Prep Time: 35 mins Ingredients 1 medium butternut, cubed 1 medium sweet potato, cubed 1 T Moroccan rub ¼ cup avocado oil 1 onion, finely chopped 2 cloves garlic, crushed 1 T curry masala 1 x 400 g can tomatoes, chopped 1 T tomato paste 1 T brown sugar 2 cups vegetable stock 1 x 400 g can chickpeas, drained, rinsed Method 1. Preheat oven to 180°C. On a greased baking tray, place the butternut and sweet potato, sprinkle with Moroccan rub and a drizzle of avocado oil. Roast for 15 minutes or until golden and tender but firm. 2. In a large saucepan, heat oil, add onion and garlic, sauté until translucent. Add curry masala and stir for two…