Innehållsförteckning för October - November 2020 från True Love

I’ve always been a furious reader. Being an only child, reading was the only way I could escape, create my own reality. A reality filled with adventures, siblings and optimism. Books opened my eyes to how vast the world is and put in me a hunger to go out there and see if some of the things I had read about were actually true. Sometime this year, I attended my little niece’s birthday do and as usual we went straight to the toy store to buy her a gift. I’m a mom of boys so I was at a loss as to what to buy a 9-year-old little girl. One of my sons excitedly added that she would love nails, make-up and hair. I was taken aback by his observation,…

“Good skins is a sign of god manners” YOU LIKE: Whatever it takes to get skin that's Instagram-worthy without make up and is the cherry on top with make-up. You don't subscribe to the ethos that “black don’t crack” but instead would put aside bagging a designer purse to look amazing. You go into research mode before buying any product – it must look good but have the efficacy of a doctor-prescribed product. You’re always immaculately dressed in the latest designer garb and your home is equally as posh. You see skincare as an investment. A hefty price tag does not scare you. YOUR TRIBE’S MUST-HAVES 1. Chanel Fortifying Chanel Replenishing Hydration R1 720 2. Skin Creamery Oil Milk Cleanser R413 3. Nimue Sun C SPF 40 R572 4. Clarins…

I was born eZiphunzini, also known as Duncan Village, in East London. I am the 10th of 13 children. Home was asafe and happy space, and always felt as though the world made its wrath known to me the moment I stepped out. The moment I could draw, my parents threw their weight behind my passion. They were the type who, if I showed a slight interest in anything they’d immediately buy whatever I needed to sustain that hobby. My dad was ajournalist and my mom a midwife. I went to Belgravia Art Centre and School in East London. From there I got a scholarship at age 17 to study fashion at the Gordon Flack Davidson Academy of Design in Johannesburg, which shut its doors in 2005. In my second…

MAPALO MAKHU, A PUBLISHED AUTHOR AND FOUNDER OF WOMAN & FINANCE, DISCOVERED HER INTEREST IN FINANCE AT AGE 17. SHE HOLDS A BCOM IN FINANCE AND A POSTGRADUATE DIPLOMA IN FINANCIAL PLANNING. “I’ve had some oops moments where personal finances are concerned, but fortunately no major setbacks. I think having a BCom Finance degree and a postgrad in financial planning helped me a lot. My desire to know more about how money works has, honestly, stood me in good stead. Wealth has meant different things at different stages of my life. I know that my character, skill set, capabilities and relentless pursuit of what I want, matters the most. As a result, money followed my hard work . I learned from my parents that if I cannot buy it cash,…

“I AM NOT A FAKE. I AM NATURAL. I AM JUST BEING CASTER. I DON’T WANT TO BE SOMEONE I DON’T WANT TO BE. I DON’T WANT TO BE SOMEONE PEOPLE WANT ME TO BE. I JUST WANT TO BE ME. I WAS BORN LIKE THIS. I DON’T WANT ANY CHANGES.”– CASTER SEMENYA, SOUTH AFRICAN MIDDLE-DISTANCE RUNNER AND 2016 OLYMPIC GOLD MEDALLIST.…

GET GOING ON A GAME PLAN If you fail to plan, then you plan to fail. It’s an age-old adage that rings true for all aspects of life. During this time of business unusual, it’s more important than ever to spend time developing a solid game plan. Now’s the opportunity to consider the future possibilities for your business, then actively pursue them. Here are some pointers on developing your game plan: 1. Define success: What does success mean to you? How do you measure success? Who do you celebrate success with? Think beyond the bottom line. From this, write down your overarching vision and goals. 2. Scenario plan: Use strategic scenario-planning techniques to imagine some of the most likely possibilities for your business. Then consider how you can bring about…

WHO: Bonisa Mayeza COMPANY: Shesha FACEBOOK: Shesha App The day Bonisa Mayeza (25) was born, the ambulance failed to arrive when her mother went into labour. ‘The neighbours assisted my mother,’ the Umlazi native says. ‘This is the norm where I come from. I discovered that emergency services get lost in rural areas because there are no street names or addresses.’ This revelation prompted Bonisa to conceptualise the Shesha app, which allows people to request any emergency service and provide a precise location. Her company provides consultation to other companies on new technological innovations and app development. ‘Achieving this in just eight months is the most amazing feeling.’ Bonisa is also developing an eLearning app called The Learning Zone, which provides live video streaming for teachers. ‘This app is meant…

Apply for the Unemployment Insurance Fund (UIF): In the case of a retrenchment or reduced income claiming from the UIF can assist in supplementing your loss of income, allowing you to meet some of your financial obligations. Apply online via the Department of Labour website or call 0800 030 007 for assistance. Downscale: This will depend entirely on individual circumstances and mindset. If you are over-indebted and you have no choice but to make tough decisions, downscaling may free up substantial cashflow. Take a loan: It’s never recommended that one take on more debt when they are already struggling with existing debt. This only leads to a debt trap. Consider a payment holiday: This allows individuals to delay loan repayments over acertain period. These do not affect your credit score,…

Here are some suggestions on how to keep the sexual intimacy going: TAKE A WALK DOWN MEMORY LANE According to Jennifer Levy, a certified relationship counselor, nobody should expect the honeymoon phase to last forever. She does acknowledge that the beginning stages of a relationship are marked by powerful feelings of infatuation, fantasies and desire. In order to replicate these, she suggests visiting some of the places where the butterflies started and recreating the mood as you both remember it. One thing that causes butterflies when couples first meet is the chemical cocktail in their bodies. An easy way to recreate this later on is by doing certain activities together. BE DELIBERATE ABOUT SELF-CARE When you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, it's sometimes hard to remember where…

It’s usually around this time of the year that I get serious about my diet. I become increasingly aware of the end of winter and the fast-approaching hot summer days, which call for an increased exposure of skin. In a mad dash for summer, I try to undo all the winter woes. The warm weather also means an invitation to be more active outdoors. Unfortunately, we often leave it too late to pay attention to our health which, when neglected, can deteriorate over time. We develop unhealthy habits, which in time manifest as ailments in our bodies. But we need these bodies to carry out our purpose. I once heard a gym instructor say: ‘The body has no spare parts, so take care of this one.’ The truth is that…

“In December 2019, I lost my childhood friend to stage-4 cancer. This event took me by surprise but also woke me up to the fact that I had to do a mammogram. Up to that point I’d been striving to be healthy –I exercised three to four times a week and took good care of myself. I had been very good in doing my annual health assessments and, in January 2019 when I did my annual pap smear and breast checks, my gynaecologist said I was very healthy and needed to only come back in two years for my next examination. There were no symptoms to indicate I had breast cancer. I’m talking about the common signs that we should look for like a lump, discomfort, nipple discharge, inverted nipples.…

Roast pork & date witlof salad Serves: 4 Prep time: 1 hr 65 mins Ingredients For the pork 800 g boneless pork belly, thinly scored 1 tsp fennel seeds 1 T olive oil Shaved Parmesan, to garnish 6 pitted dates, thinly sliced For the salad 2 bunches witlof, leaves separated 1 1/2 T extra-virgin olive oil 1 T red wine vinegar 1/2 white onion, thinly sliced 6 anchovy fillets, torn 1/2 cup roasted hazelnuts, coarsely chopped Method 1. Place pork skin-side up on a tray lined with baking paper and refrigerate, uncovered, overnight. 2. Preheat oven to 220°C. Coarsely grind fennel seeds and transfer to a bowl with 2 tsp salt. Place pork skin-side up on a wire rack over the sink and pour boiling water over. Pat dry, drizzle…

Raymond Motadi, also known as Mon_D The Gay Superhero, recalls some of the songs that affirm he is a true survivor. Coming Homeby P Diddy This song represents so much for me. I’d just endured such intense bullying for being gay in my small-town high school, that I forced my parents to change schools so I could seek refuge and acceptance. The new school became my home. A Song For Youby Donny Hathaway This song played when I visited one of my best friends during a very difficult time in my life. Depression is a huge issue and we don’t often talk about it. This song reminds me that friends are the family we choose. Biggerby Beyoncé I had just quit my advertising job and wasn’t sure what…

THE MISUNDERSTOOD WOMAN by Harmony L. Maseko and co-authors, TMW, R250 Women are often misunderstood and reminded of their flaws, whether past or present. This anthology of stories from different women shows how the world becomes a place with no limits when they rise above their past and discover themselves. They face hardships along the way, including difficulties posed by society and classism, but this will not cloud the light of the present and the future. MISS BEHAVE by Malebo Sephodi, R220 A quote by historian Laurel Thatcher Ulrich: “Well behaved women seldom make history”, is what triggered Malebo Sephodi’s inspiration for this book. Appropriating Ulrich’s quote, the author boldly renounces societal expectations placed on her and shares her journey of challenging society’s ideas and expectations of what it means…

CARROL BOYES “All Dressed Up” was sculpted by Carrol in 2018 and is one of the few of her sculptures where the figure is clothed, the flares of the dress providing a practical solution to the gravity-defying pose. Caught in movement, she presents her offering to the world. GLASS BOWL AND STAND – ALL DRESSED UP An iconic centrepiece in glass and durable cast aluminium, perfect for displaying fruit, flowers, or a spectacular layered dessert. Available in all Carrol Boyes Retail Stores and on www. carrolboyes.com Price: R8 495.00 CLOVER:BLISSDESSERT Wanting to tuck into a decadent chocolate dessert but not in the mood to make it? We’ve got you covered! Introducing Clover’s Bliss chocolate dairy dessert – the first real, ready-to-eat chocolate dairy dessert. No whipping, no cooking, no baking,…

NEW LABEL ALERT! Although we’re not yet jet-setting to our dream international destinations, one brand that had us swooning on Instagram has to be Lynne Kayenne Studio. It’s a Malawian women’s wear brand that fuses contemporary design with African prints. The brains behind the label is Linda Kumbanyiwa, who in a recent interview an international magazine about her designs, said: “I want to make women feel their most beautiful”. If your pockets are deep enough, Lynne Kayenne Studio also ships worldwide. Visit www. lynnekayennestudio.com. SUPPORT LOCAL For designer wear heavily rooted in its African heritage, you have to make a stop as Jozi’s latest fashion spot, Africarise, in the heart of the CBD at 66 Anderson Street. You’re guaranteed to find an eclectic mix of Mzansi’s creative geniuses. From renowned…

“Why fix a good thing if ain't broke?” YOU LIKE: the simpler the better; that’s what you’d like people to think. Your skincare journey is inherited from your female elders and you’re not complaining because it works. You like a pop of colour but you’d die if someone asks you to add foundation to your regimen. You can regularly be spotted in an “Africa your time is now” or “We the people” T-shirt to speak for you wherever you go. YOUR TRIBE’S MUST-HAVES 1. Bio Oil Skincare Oil R229,95 2. Dove Beauty Bar White R37,99 3. Gentle Magic Skincare Mash R32,99 4. Ingrams Camphor Cream R44,95 5. Neutrogena Skin Detox Cooling Gel Scrub R119,95 6. Nivea Q10 Anti Age Multi Action Youth Oil Booster R295 7. Ponds Pimple Clear Face…

THE TWIST Forget a boring ponytail! Give the staple look a couture makeover by simply twisting the loose hair until it creates an intertwined shape, and then securing it with a hair grip or hair tie. If you don’t have enough length, a clip-on ponytail can also do the job. Hair Grips, R14. PIGTAILS Yes, your worst nightmare is back – pigtails. Grownups are now taking inspiration from their youth with playful ponytails. The key to this look is that it doesn’t have to be perfect – forget a pin-straight line and hair all neatly tucked away. This look is all about childhood candor. Create curly fly-aways with a GHD Curve Creative Curl Wand W , R2 700 7 .. CORNROWS Cornrows have always been winter’s solution for an easy…

I’ve always wanted to be an actress. Since childhood, I knew entertainment was the industry I wanted be in. At school, I participated in drama productions and, at the age of 16, my pursuit into the industry kicked off with a role in a Cheese Curls advertisment. I was eager and I think it showed because the director of the same advert cast me in a McDonald’s ad he later worked on. At age 17, I debuted as Naledi on the SABC 1 sitcom, My Perfect Family. Producer and director Kutlwano Ditsele was casting director for Netflix’s series, Blood & Water. He’s also the executive producer on Gomora and called me to audition — and that’s how I became Buhle. In 2016, after finishing matric at Reddam House in Bedfordview,…

INTO THE WILD Animal prints continu to pounce onto the trends list and this year it’s splashed all over swimwear. Whether it’s zebra, leopard or tiger prints, they are gorgeously useful to conceal the parts of your body you aren’t comfortable with. COVER FOR ATTENTION This heavily printed kimono will turn heads and take you from the sun-drenched pools to sundowners with ease. Pair it with a minimalist and muted swimsuit for maximum attention.give it a maximum attention. TROPICAL HEATWAVE Nothing says summer quite like tropical prints. Lush greenery, over-sized florals and wild animal motifs awaken your jungle fever and lust for an exotic destination in far-away lands. SPORTING ATTITUDE Swimwear with an athleisure aesthetic is all the rage this season. Crop tops and high-waisted booty short combos that resemble…

Tell us about your journey into entrepreneurship? I studied marketing and events management but was more passionate about events, which has been of great value to the positioning of Andimahle Building Events. After graduating, I travelled before settling on a career path. I studied in the UK, where I stayed for four years, while working two jobs as a receptionist and at a nursing home. On return to South Africa in 2007, I worked in government as an admin clerk for a year to build my resume and have an understanding of the workspace here at home. During the 2010 World Cup, I set up my first business in construction and later ventured into events planning and management. Why did you choose to be an entrepreneur? I come from a…

WHO: Luella Naidoo COMPANY: Jezriel Craig Holdings FACEBOOK: Jezriel Craig Holdings After 10 years of work in the HIV field, Luella Naidoo’s son was diagnosed with cerebral palsy, and she found she couldn’t give him the care he needed and fulfil a demanding role. She had to find something flexible. ‘I noticed that many business graduates were without employment after graduating,’ Luella says. Using her background in the healthcare sector, she set up Jezriel Craig Holdings, which connects graduates who have a BSc or business degree with companies in the medical and pharmaceutical industries. Luella’s company’s key offerings are training and development, recruitment, recruitment of people living with disabilities, graduate programmes, and contract sales force. ‘We’re especially proud of the work we’ve done to help the differently abled find work…

BEFORE THE LIGHT-BULB MOMENT “Growing up, I was no different to any young person going about their life and doing their best to get good grades so they could get a well-paying job. Now, with the benefit of hindsight, I realise that I’ve always been a fashion and hair entrepreneur from a young age. I’m a self-taught seamstress and fashion designer; and I’d always do people‘s hair on weekends. Back then, I treated it as a side hustle that brought in extra money. Fast-forward to my tertiary days and I studied Quantity Surveying. My maths teacher’s son was one and she had recommended the course. I didn’t know the course existed until I enrolled. Upon researching the field, I figured Quantity Surveying would be a great fit seeing that the…

Yvonne Lekalakala Establish your professional brand. Find the right people. Engage with insights. Build relationships. Kopano Moshoana Network Use the platform to promote yourself. Share your CV and portfolio of work. Tag the people and brands you have collaborated with. Sasha-Lee Findlay See it as more than just an online CV. Be more interactive. Engage in strategic ways. Join groups that are aligned with your professional interests. Azaqiqe Mkosana Be specific with your job search. Save your searches to get notifications. Find out who the hiring managers are and ask them to be on lookout for your application.…

If you’ve ever ventured into Korean beauty, or K-beauty, you’ll see it’s arabbit hole of the latest and most innovative products. From cute and sophisticated packaging to effective 10-step regimens and ingredients such as snail slime and bee glue, there’s no resisting the allure. Add to this the marketing powers of social media influencers and it's clear that K-beauty has taken hold of South Africa and much of the world. The story behind the multi-billion dollar empire, whose roots are in South Korea, is fascinating. Here, skincare is taken seriously. Children as young as 10 start using anti-ageing products and, because sun protection is prioritised, some of the best sunscreens in the world are made there and put to use from infancy. Much like South Africans often have a family…

If you have any the following symptoms, it’s time you seek medical help: Constipation. A chronic (sometimes not) condition in which one’s bowel movements are infrequent (less than thrice weekly) and the stools are literally metal-rod tough. The stools take long in transit which could lead to conditions such as leaky gut or haemorrhoids. Leaky Gut. A condition where the stomach’s lining gets damaged and starts tearing up into cracks, therefore allowing undigested food particles, toxins and bacteria to permeate your bloodstream. The natural health industry calls it auto intoxication, which is basically your body toxifying itself. Haemorrhoids or Piles. Swollen and inflamed veins in the rectum and anus, usually caused by straining during bowel movements, obesity or pregnancy, that cause discomfort and bleeding. Common symptoms include…

H2O SO BUBBLY If you are obsessed with sparkling water tickling your tastebuds, we’ve got just the product for you. Aarke’s award-winning Carbonator II sparkling water maker (from R3999 at Yuppiechep.com) takes water from flat to deliciously effervescent at the click of a switch. A smart and healthy addition to your kitchen gadgets. Food-fluencer to stalk We are totally stalking Charmaine Ramo-lope, aka the Glam Foodie’s Instagram page. She’s super stylish, a hottie to note and on point when it comes to making amazing meals or steering you in the right direction for the best grub anywhere in the world. Follow her @GlamFoodieZA. WHAT’S FOR DINNER Sunday roast chicken is prepared effortlessly, curtesy of celebrity Chef Zola Nene and LG’s Neo Chef microwave. Baby potatoes, peppers, onion, lemon, garlic, rosemary,…

BUHLE NGUBENI, 50 This self-employed food and exercise coach from Benoni has taken part in many marathons in her lifetime. She, initially, started running for weight management reasons, but is now a self-professed “running addict”! What was the most memorable experience of the Comrades Marathon? It’s quite tough, with lots of inclines for the first half of the marathon. I can’t settle on one favourite marathon, simply because I enjoy all my annual races. They require hard work, but luckily I’m a strong finisher. How did you prepare for the marathon? Preparation for any marathon requires training and rest — that’s all. These two steps are the most important in the pre-race preparation process. This is what I teach my clients on a regular basis. Would you do it again?…

LIBRA 23 Sept – 22 Oct Big plans are fraught with complications and many negotiations. You have to work twice as hard to get things done; it is like wading through mud. As you languish in daydreams you will be bestowed with flashes of inspirational ideas and solutions. From mid-November you want to do it all. LOVE: From the 3rd the small things annoy you. Love is messy and complicated. In November it’s time to sparkle and melt hearts but it must be a steady love-flame. One-dimensional types aren’t for you. WORK/MONEY: By the14th less is more. It’s time to cut back on financial haemorrhaging. In November the great negotiator is back, and with your delightful charm you can clinch any deal. SCORPIO 23 Oct – 21 Nov By the…

“The earth provides that which we must partake” YOU LIKE: anything that affirms you are an African queen. You relish in black hair chronicles and can entertain any audience with the intricate story of your black hair journey that may or may not be directly linked to your personal passions. Organic, eco-friendly products really make your heart skip a beat. You’re the ultimate trendsetter; embracing niche products and quirky brands. Everything must have an edge … including your beauty products. YOUR TRIBE’S MUST-HAVES 1. Dr Hauschka Melissa Day Cream R665 2. Skoon Rosehip C+ Antioxidant Concentrate R259,95 3. Skin Cremery Deep Cleansing Powder R341 4. Elemis Superfood Vital Veggie Mask R729 5. Hemp Shower Oil R165 6. African Extracts Rooibos Dual Action Exfoliating Mask R109,95 7. Nuxe Micro-exfoliating Cleansing Mask…

1. Sneakers or heels… sneakers. 2. One song you love but will deny in public… any song by Taylor Swift. 3. My travel bucket list… Nigeria for the culture, Brazil because Blood & Water is big there, Japan to see what the hype is about, and the Maldives because it looks peaceful. 4. If I wasn’t an actress, I’d be… I don’t know. I’ve only ever wanted to be an actress. 5. I have the biggest celebrity crush on… I won’t say who as I don’t want to jinx it. In general, I love guys who are genuine and humble, and with good principles.…

WHERE THER’S SMOKE THERE’S FIRE Sapphire-coloured eyes, bold creases on the eyelid and glittery, smokey eyes bring three trends together. The jewel-toned shade adds a pop of colour and elevates the traditional smokey eye. Swipe on an eyeshadow primer before adding colour to the lids. to make sure that the eyeshadow stays put. DIFFERENT STOKES A contrasting inner lid adds colourful interest and immediately captures passerbys' attention. The contrasting hues are a great way to play with colour this summer. Choose colours that sit on the opposite end of the colour spectrum (like orange and blue) and use one on the eyelid and the other on the inner bottom lid. MOLTEN ROCK Need a little sparkle in your life? The embellishment trend is just for you. Opt for anything from…

To avoid being a statistic, Scott Dinsmore, a career-change strategist suggests three surprisingly simple and common practices for finding, and doing, work that you relish. These include finding and learning about yourself, pushing your limits and surrounding yourself with people who inspire possibility. He says a lot of people face career dissatisfaction as a result of not knowing what they want and, therefore, experience a major roadblock to professional success. “If you don’t know what you’re looking for, you’re never going to find it. It’s on you to figure that out, and you need a way to navigate through this,” Dinsmore explains. He adds that most people who haven’t found what matters, keep reaching for opportunities that mean nothing to them. “Once you have this compass, you can start identifying…

WHO: Sue van der Linde COMPANY: Iris House Children’s Hospice WEBSITE: iris-house.org While living in England, Sue saw an ad in the local paper looking for special needs carers. She didn’t understand why she felt such an urge to follow this calling, but after her first care session, Sue knew what she wanted to do with the rest of her life. ‘Suddenly, things I considered “problems” in my life were insignificant. The children and the families we cared for showed me what true determination, love and acceptance is.’ Sue returned to SA and created Iris House Children’s Hospice in 2011. The hospice cares for special needs children, offers hospice-based and overnight respite care, parent support services, equine therapy and gardening workshops. ‘We have more than 500 registered children whose symptoms…

Who do you turn to for business advice? I don’t take advice from anyone who is not in business [chuckles]. However, I’m always keen to take wise counsel from people who’ve walked a mile, or two, in my shoes. My husband would be my first go-to person. I also bounce ideas off my business partners, listen to podcasts and read books from innovators and industry disruptors — none of which are in my space. What book changed your career trajectory? There isn’t a book that informed my career path per se. Instead, I have one that helped me develop my thinking and realise the limitations we place on ourselves. It is Joseph Murphy’s The Power of Your Subconscious Mind. What international city is on your bucket list post-COVID? I’m definitely…

1. Realising that the grass is not always greener on the other side often makes way for couples to get back together after separation. 2. Once you and your partner agree on dating other people, anything can happen. So, brace yourself because they might fall in love with someone else and end up with them. 3. Depending on who you rely on for advice and your personal experiences during separation, your values can change and affect how you approach new and old relationships. 4. Should you choose forgiveness, be mindful of practising unconditional forgiveness rather than sweeping things under the rug, as they could resurface later. 5. People are not perfect, and these flaws come out a lot in relationships. Try to practice compromise and open-mindedness often.…

Portals like puku.co.za; Book Dash, Nali’Bali and Africanstorybook.org are great resources for accessing local children’s books — some of which are free, written in African languages or are bilingual. Some of our favourites include: Our Story Magic by Gcina Mhlophe, published by University of KwaZulu-Natal. Also available in IsiZulu. Mpumi’s Magic Beads by Lebohang Masango and Masego Morulane, published by Thank You Books and David Philip. Also available in Setswana, Sesotho, Sepedi, IsiXhosa, IsiZulu, Tshivenda, Xitsonga and Afrikaans. Mosidi by Lorato Trok, published with the help of Puku Children’s Literature Foundation and Siyafunda Online. Available in Setswana. It’s Jamela! – The Complete Collection by Niki Daly, published by Tafelberg. Yes Yanga! by Refiloe Moahloli, published by Pan Macmillan South Africa. Long Walk To Freedom by Nelson Mandela, adapted for children…

Movies WONDER WOMAN 1984 RELEASE DATE: 2 October DC Comics’ female superhero, Wonder Woman returns for this sequel. Following a coming-of-age theme, it sees Diana Prince (Gal Gadot) realise her full strengths and powers in becoming Wonder Woman, and battle conflicts against some powerful people during the cold war. HONEST THIEF RELEASE DATE: 9 October The “in-and-out bandit”, Tom Carter (played by Liam Neeson) is an old thief who managed to steal $9 million (about R149 million) from different banks in a small town without getting caught. Carter abandons the life of crime when he falls in love with Annie (Kate Walsh) but trouble seems to follow him. Stream L.A.’S FINEST S1 BINGE FROM: 1 October A spinoff from the Bad Boys franchise, this action drama and…