A FEW things I’ve seen, known, and experienced about significant loss, grief, and mourning:
Grief can go into hiding and emerge months, even years later, as something quite unexpected – like anger, disappointment or cynicism, or kindness, joy, softness, and appreciation.
Time itself doesn’t heal, not usually. Some grief is never “healed” and some losses never find “closure” but the lack of either does not mean survivors will not, or cannot, live full, productive, beautiful lives.
Replacing a loss with another person “too quickly” may be unwise, unfair, and irresponsible (all things I’ve heard) but it doesn’t feel that way for the one who has suffered, and insisting on expressing this is usually alienating and counterproductive and can rip already suffering families apart.
Mourning has a life of its own,…
