Indholdsfortegnelse for November 2016 i Fairlady

360 Liza van Deventer, our brilliant photographer, now also shoots fascinating 360º pics of the people we interview. – have a look at www.facebook.com/fairladymag. Jack Irish I have a giant crush on Jack Irish, played by Guy Pearce in a bad cardie and with terrible hair, who wanders around finding baddies. I read all the books (by Peter Temple, who was South African but has lived in Oz for far too many years now), and this is the TV series based on those books. It’s brilliant: complex, gritty – but also very funny in that flat Ozzie way. I’m totally hooked. Pintuck swimming costumes I love this idea! In my view, shopping for swimming costumes comes just below smacking myself on the head with a ping-pong bat for a week…

1. YOU ARE MORE EMPATHETIC. A study by Harvard psychologist Adam Waytz suggests that people who are socially connected with others can have a hard time identifying with people who are more distant from them. Spending a certain amount of time alone, the study says, can make us more capable of empathy – in other words, better social animals. 2. YOU ARE MORE IN TOUCH WITH YOUR INNER BEING. ‘What emerges over time, for those who live alone, is an at-home self that is markedly different – in ways big and small – from the self they present to the world,’ says Steven Kurutz in The New York Times. ‘We all have private selves, of course, but people who live alone spend a good deal more time exploring them.’ 3.…

‘Everything that I respect in my personality, my parents mentored me in. I’m very grateful that they instilled in me the need to be disciplined. To be on time. To be organised.’ After years of donning wigs and accents and putting on personas, Pieter-Dirk Uys is stepping onstage in his new show in a never-before-seen guise: as himself. ‘This show is not Evita, it’s not false eyelashes. It’s me, unplugged, or just… kaalgat!’, he says. ‘I never thought I would have the courage to just tell my stories. I’ve always had characters as a sort of shield.’ For someone who values his privacy, it hasn’t always been easy to lay it all bare, but Pieter relishes the challenge. ‘I want everything to be hard. Nothing must be easy. If it’s…

Oprah Winfrey She may have quit her day job back in 2011, but Oprah is still the undisputed queen of talk. The Oprah Winfrey Show was on air for 25 years, she has developed the OWN channel, where she continues to call the shots, and she is the world’s richest self-made woman and only black female billionaire. But, believe it or not, at the age of 22 Oprah was fired from her job as a TV anchor for being ‘too emotionally involved with the stories’. The Beatles After the band auditioned for record label Decca in 1962, Brian Epstein, the manager of the best-selling music group of all time, was told:‘We don’t like their sound, and guitar groups are on the way out.’ Walt Disney At 22, Walt was fired…

‘We are opposites in just about every way. He is very mathematical; I am verbal. He is very tidy; I am not. He draws up shopping lists; I don’t. You get the drift.’ Why did you decide to write a memoir? Because I think it’s a story worth telling, and because I have had such fun reading the memoirs of my forebears. Your relatives were scattered across the world as a result of the holocaust. Did any of them go into politics? My extended family is very politically aware. As far as I know only one cousin in England stood for election to his local council… but he had another day job. Are you happy your grandparents ended up here? My parents came first and brought my grandparents out afterwards.…

STRAWBERRY KIWI SHAKE • 250ml semi-skimmed milk • 75g strawberries, frozen • 1 kiwi, ripe • ½ orange, medium-sized • 2 tbsp Herbalife Formula 1 Strawberry Shake Mix NUTRITIONAL VALUES: Protein: 21.3 g | Kilojoules 1868 kJ Carbs: 77 g | Fat: 8 g | Fibre 8 g A nutritious breakfast kick-starts your day – and it should provide about 25% of your daily nutritional requirements*. But often we’re in such a rush that we skip this important meal. Also, it’s not about having just any breakfast, it’s about having a healthy, balanced one. Try the Herbalife Breakfast to start your day. The Herbalife Formula 1 Shake comes in a variety of flavours to suit your taste and is a great alternative to a kilojoule-controlled breakfast. If shakes aren’t your…

SMALL BUST Looking for something to enhance your A-cups? Keep an eye out for tops with extra padding or boning, and cups that lift and separate. Detailing like ruffles and fringing will also give the illusion of fullness. Plus, you could comfortably rock a full-piece with a plunging V-neck without looking tawdry! FULL HIPS & THIGHS The trick here is to create balance with a swimsuit that draws the eye upwards – with a clever use of colour or patterning on the bust. Also look for a high-cut fit that elongates your legs; bikini bottoms that tie at the side so they won’t create that dreaded muffin top, or a dress-style piece that drapes over your thighs. BUSTY You need to feel supported and secure, and free to frolic in…

Skin We all love the long summer days, but let’s face it, when it comes to makeup, heat and humidity are not your friends. Finding something that won’t melt off your face can be a challenge, and you don’t want to have to keep checking and touching up your makeup. So here are our top tricks for helping your makeup stay put on a hot day. First off, a few basic pointers: try not to touch your face too much; picking spots is a no-no and so is rubbing your eyes – not only does this remove and smear makeup (obviously), but you’re also spreading germs. Yuck. Choose a foundation and concealer with long-wearing, waterproof formulas. If you still find that they’re not lasting as promised, apply a layer of…

It is so much more than a cookbook; it’s the chance to get your life back! LOSE IT! magazine has inspired many people to switch to a Banting/LCHF lifestyle. Now there’s a new recipe book on the shelves to give you even more inspiration to follow a healthy diet. Wine blogger and food critic Hennie Coetzee struggled with his weight. He tried vigorous exercise and dieting, but only felt hungry and tired, and he ended up fatter than before. Journalist and publicist Brian Berkman was so concerned that his Type 2 diabetes and high blood pressure might kill him that he considered bariatric surgery. Sharon van Wyk was insulin-resistant and overweight following years of infertility treatment. Enter the Banting lifestyle! It entails lowering carbohydrates, cutting out processed food and sugar,…

MISO PASTE A mixture of soybean paste, rice (or barley) and salt that’s fermented to form an unusual, deliciously subtle and unique tasting paste, Miso can be added to dishes to enhance their flavour. It’s also a great source of mineral antioxidants, and may help prevent cancer and heart disease. Here are some ideas on how to use it… DOWNTIME UP HIGH! Enjoy a relaxing sundowner and some delicious snacks while taking in the Jozi skyline at the exquisite Island Bar in The Southern Sun Hyde Park in Sandton. It’s the perfect place to take a breather with family, friends or workmates. Visit www.tsogosun.com for more information. 3 WAYS WITH Miso paste PORK, PRAWN AND MISO WONTONS In a bowl, stir together 200g pork sausage meat, 200g prawn meat, 3…

Straw berries! Now you can hull strawberries without chopping off half the berry: use a drinking straw. Just insert the straw from the bottom and pop out the top. Washed up Your dishwasher can wash more than just your dirty dishes: think plastic action figures and other small toys, light-fixture covers (as long as they aren’t antique, enameled, or painted), kitchen sponges, kitchen brushes, plastic combs and clips, sink plugs, your microwave tray, spoon rests, toothbrush holders and gloopy soap dishes. You can also clean the dust and greasy splatters off your oven knobs by removing them, placing them in the utensil compartment and running a hot cycle. Unplugged Moving house? Before you unplug all your electronics, take a quick snap of the cords on the back of your TV…

HOME BY HARLAN COBEN Ten years after the high profile kidnapping of two boys, Myron Bolitar and his friend Win believe they have located one of the boys, now a teenager. What can he tell them about the fate of his friend? Coben delivers an explosive thriller about friendship, family, and the meaning of home. THE CLASSIC SOUTH AFRICAN COOKBOOK BY MELINDA ROODT A book of recipes of the melting pot that is classic SA home cooking. It’s a celebration of the country’s diverse cultures that often blend more harmoniously in the kitchen than in any other spheres of life. RUSHING WATERS BY DANIELLE STEEL As Hurricane Ophelia bears down on NYC, millions are caught up in the horrific flooding it unleashes. Danielle Steel’s captivating writing gives her legions of…

WHEN ZUMA GOES BY RALPH MATHEKGA What kind of South Africa will Jacob Zuma leave behind when he retires to Nkandla? Will his legacy leave the country and the ANC crippled for years to come, or will the end of the Zuma era bring relief and new hope for a better future? CONFRONTING THE CORRUPT BY PAUL HOFFMAN This book tells the tale of Accountability Now’s biggest battles that led to landmark decisions in jurisprudence – all the drama from SA’s most interesting of times. CLOSING DATE: 30 NOVEMBER 2016…

Scorpio 23 Oct – 21 Nov You’re optimistic, energetic, fiery – and extremely temperamental. Don’t waste any of this energy on tantrums. You can have those any time. For now, look at the bigger picture: where would you like to live? Does your career please you? Is your love life all it could be? Take the questions one at a time. Choose what you can, or ask for help. There’s an air of entitlement about your month. And yes, you are entitled to all the happiness you can bear. Sagittarius 22 Nov – 21 Dec Love affairs happen unexpectedly – but don’t last. Offers come and go; the adventure takes you down a hundred different roads. The planets of unexpected change and good fortune are making sure you’re never bored.…

WINNING LETTER The reality of half of the human race Thank you for publishing the article ‘3 ways my parents unintentionally taught me that my consent didn’t matter’ (September 2016). It is a hugely powerful article, and I hope it is widely distributed and that many people, both men and women, read it. I couldn’t finish it; just before the end I began to sob deeply. Everything she wrote resonated with me. She articulated what I have wanted to say – or scream, actually. I cried because, like her, I am a ‘hardcore freezer’, and not like her friend Claire, even though I want to be. I cried because my husband probably won’t read the article. Because my in-laws definitely won’t read the article. Because many of my teaching colleagues…

CLARISSE COETZEE MARKETING & EVENT MANAGEMENT Business owner: Clarisse Coetzee Start-up costs: ‘A car charger for about R250, registering a domain for about R160, a laptop for about R8 000, a 3G modem for R250 per month, and initially I rented a desk for R2 500 per month.’ Average monthly turnover: ‘It varies. Some months are much busier than others.’ Clarisse says inspiration came in an instant, a moment of sudden understanding about her own truth. ‘I was walking the Camino de Santiago in Spain, and on the trail one day I just said to myself: “Who are you fooling? You want your own company; you want to be in control of your own time – take the leap of faith!”’ In fact, it took a bit of a push:…

Keen to try unschooling? Here’s what the experts recommend: • Do your homework. Find out all you can about the various systems and approaches available. • Consider how the approach fits with your child. Cara Blackie suggests the best candidates are children who don’t fare well in the traditional school system. • Understand that it will take a lot of work and an enormous investment of your time. Joseph Gerassi believes it would not be possible to have a job and unschool your children. • Know you will encounter challenges, including the scepticism of others.…

The day I left school I was determined to start a new life. Feeling isolated and insecure, I blamed it on my weight, gradually gained throughout my high-school years, with a quantum leap during my time as a boarder. My primary-school happiness had evaporated; the carefree cultural affinity I’d experienced among the children of refugees, prison warders and local working-class families (still all white in 1950s apartheid South Africa) had been replaced by a subtle sense of class exclusion at my English upper middle-class Anglican high school. My parents were German, and half Jewish, and my views on most issues, from religion to politics, were accepted with the refined English condescension that tolerates ‘deviance’. Peer affirmation is perhaps the most important determinant of happiness during one’s school years, and its…

Q: My husband snores so badly I can’t sleep and it is affecting my health. We don’t have a spare room. I am desperate. What should we do? A: My husband can sympathise: When I was pregnant I snored like a tractor. I would ask why he looked so tired and he’d say, ‘You were purring again last night,’ as he knew how hormonal I was! Snoring can be destructive for the 40% of the population who snore – and for anyone sleeping in the same bed. He may wake up tired, with a sore throat, bad breath and a headache (all signs of snoring), and you also get a bad night’s sleep. There are a number of causes. The muscles in the throat, tongue and face are…

Shopping tip Trust us, youll wear these sexy but comfortable sandals all summer long, so pick a pair in a neutral shade to go with everything in your wardrobe. Make sure it’s a block heel for ultimate comfort. Styling tip You want to see the ankle strap and heel, so pair this sandle with a midi-skirt or dress that shows it off. Now all that’s left is to get a relaxing pedi……

Tabac Gentle Men’s Care EDT, R595 for 90ml is a fresh scent with notes of orange, violet leaves and sandalwood. Urban Decay Naked3 Eyeshadow Palette, R850 contains 12 rose-inspired eyeshadows, from glimmering metallics to highly pigmented matte. Rimmel Lasting Finish by Kate Lipstick in 52 Idol Red, R99,95 is designed by Kate Moss herself. L’Oréal Paris Age Perfect Golden Age Essence, R249,95 acts like a serum by rehydrating your skin and hiding signs of fatigue. Tom Ford Orchid Soleil EDP, R2100 for 50ml is an intense floral scent with spice notes. Kérastase Discipline Oleo Curl Crème, R385 gives curls shine, hydration and definition. Avon Nail Wear Pro + Nail Enamel in Rosie Gold, R99 strengthens and protects in a deep metallic shade. Essence Mono Eyeshadow in 20 Rosy Happiness, R34,95…

SALMON GRAVLAX CURED WITH BEETROOT AND HIMALAYAN SALT Serves 8-10 PREP TIME: 20 minutes plus time for curing Gravlax is a popular Scandinavian dish. Salmon is cured overnight in a mixture of salt, sugar and dill. (We added beetroot for the beautiful colour, but you can leave it out.) The curing process helps to draw out excess moisture from the fish, giving it a firm texture. For the cure ½ cup coarse pink Himalayan salt ½ cup granulated sugar 100g grated fresh beetroot 10g fresh dill sprigs, roughly chopped salt and milled pepper 1 large side of salmon Melba toast, crème fraîche and micro greens, to serve 1. For the cure: Combine all the ingredients in a bowl. Place the salmon skin side down in a dish and pack the…

Late spring tips for your garden PRUNE: Azaleas can be pruned to keep them tidy; also, pack some slightly acidic mulch around them. Buchu, pincushions, ericas and confetti bushes are just a few of the fynbos plants that can be tidied up after flowering. Trailing geraniums can be pruned after flowering. Then fertilise for the next batch of beauty. PLANT: Spring is the time for bountiful colour... Plant gauras, agapanthus and cupheas for year-after-year colour. In shady gardens, shade-loving impatiens, begonias and hydrangeas can add a burst of colour. Plant annuals like dianthus and salvias in sunny patches. EDIBLES: Plant berries now. Blueberries and raspberries are easy to grow. I get best results planting them in large containers and fertilising well. Start planting seedlings of chillies, peppers, cucumber, watermelon, artichoke,…

Award-winning science journalist Elsabé Brits has a passion for unearthing forgotten stories. Her striking take on the life of pacifist, feminist and deemed traitor, Emily Hobhouse, is a beautiful demonstration of the rich storytelling that results: it is interwoven with previously unseen pictures, scrapbook entries and letters found by Brits in a dusty trunk passed down to one of Emily’s relatives living on Vancouver Island. Brits began her journey into Emily’s untold stories in 2013, after reading Rykie van Reenen’s book, Heldin Uit Die Vreemde. ‘I realised there was so much more to her,’ says Brits. ‘I began digging deeper for my own interest. But the more I dug up, the more I came to see that Emily deserved a more nuanced account of her endeavours.’ As a journalist of…

For nearly a century, KitchenAid products have represented the perfect mix of professional performance, artisan quality and iconic design. There is no denying that fine craftsmanship, durability, sturdiness, quality materials and careful attention to detail are the basis of all KitchenAid machines. As once-in-a-lifetime purchases, KitchenAid products are handed over from one generation to the next. THE PRIZE INCLUDES: ArtisanMixerAlmondCream 5-pc Bakeware Set Artisan 2-Slice Toaster Almond Cream Artisan 1.5L Kettle Almond Cream Pasta Drying Rack 3-pc Pasta Roller Set 3-pc Attachment Pack IceCreamBowlAttachment 5-pc Gadget Set Apron (not pictured) 5-pc Gadget Set 4-pc Ceramic Nesting Set Stovetop Kettle Empire Red Q: How long have KitchenAid products represented the perfect mix of professional performance, artisan quality and iconic design? HOW TO ENTER: SMS the keyword KITCHENAID along with…

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The right to an education is guaranteed in the South African Constitution, and the Universal Declaration of Human Rights guarantees parents a prior right to choose the kind of education to be given to their child. The SA Schools Act recognises home education, but requires parents to register with the provincial head of Basic Education. Provinces have different registration requirements, some of which violate other constitutional rights of parents and children, resulting in parents opting not to register with the Department of Basic Education. The state has recognised its inconsistencies in this regard and is in consultation with members of the homeschooling community. Unschooling differs from schooling and homeschooling in that the child partners with parents in order to meet his or her learning needs. Unschooling parents are of the…

‘I felt in my heart, through every bone in my body, that I would rather die than let him see me not succeed.’BARBARA CORCORAN ‘Failure taught me things about myself that I could have learnt no other way. I discovered that I had a strong will, and more discipline than I had suspected.’JK ROWLING She might be the world’s first billionaire author, but Joanne (better known as JK) Rowling is no stranger to failure. In fact, when asked to make the commencement address at a Harvard graduation in 2008, she chose to speak about two things: imagination and the fringe benefits of failure – something she wishes she had known about at her own graduation. ‘What I feared most for myself at your age was not poverty, but failure,’…

Scotland, 1962, and Peter and Eileen Caddy, along with their colleague Dorothy Maclean, were in a fix. They’d all just lost jobs at a large hotel and had to move into the Findhorn Bay Caravan Park down the road. The Caddys’ three young sons also had to squeeze into the 30-foot caravan, and their only income was an unemployment benefit. As weeks of unemployment became months, Peter started a vegetable garden to supplement their food – even though they were on a sandy, windswept peninsula where the soil was ‘just sand and gravel held together by couch grass,’ he wrote. But the garden thrived, to the point where people would come just to see it. Peter wrote: ‘People … would go away shaking their heads, scarcely able to believe it…

PEEK-A-BOO This look is all about strategically placed cut-outs: they flatter the natural shape of your body and show off just a touch of skin, giving this full-piece all the sexiness of a bikini without the exposure. COSTUME JEWELLERY Swimsuits with built-in detailing like metallic clasps or chain-link straps add instant glamour. Go all out and layer on even more accessories for the ultimate poolside goddess look. NOT-SO STRAIT-LACED Lacing is big news in swimwear this season. A suit that laces over your chest gives you the option of showing off some cleavage; or tie it tightly to give your breasts some lift. SUPPORTING ACT If you are busty, choose a swimsuit with good support: keep the girls in place with built-in cups – this balconette bra-style suit is right…

Limited edition legend   Eight Hour Cream is the MacGyver of beauty products: it helps relieve dry skin; eases redness and comforts abrasions. Good news: Elizabeth Arden’s released its annual limited edition of the original – and it’s soooo pretty. Available Oct–Dec 2016 only. R265 SOFTLY DOES IT If you love the feel of cashmere, this fragrance trio will be right up your street. Inspired by the feeling of the soft luxurious fabric against her skin, fashion designer Donna Karan decided to create The Liquid Cashmere Collection. White is a light, citrusy scent with vanilla and musky notes. Blush is soft and delicate, with notes of lily of the valley, jasmine, and musk, and Black (undoubtedly the sexiest of the three) is sweet and fruity – great for an evening…

VEGAN MUSHROOM BURGERS Serves 4 PREP TIME: 30 minutes 4DENNY Originalmushroomburgerpatties 8 DENNY Portobellobraaimushroomsstems removed To assemble ¼ cup fresh basil pesto 2 baby gem lettuces, divided into leaves 2 tomatoes, thickly sliced 80g micro green salad leaves to garnish For the salad 4 israeli cucumbers, thinly shaved into ribbons 2 carrots, peeled and shaved into ribbons 8 DENNY buttonmushroomshalved skinny fries to serve salt and milled black pepper 1. In a frying pan, heat the DENNY® Original Mushroom burger patties to packet instructions. 2. Brush the Portobello mushrooms lightly with olive oil. In a heated griddle pan, griddle the mushrooms for 1 minute on each side until lightly charred. 3. Place a Portobello mushroom on a serving plate, and top with a dollop of pesto and some lettuce…

ASIAN-INSPIRED PORK BELLY Serves: 4-6 PREP TIME: 1 hour plus cooking time Rich Asian flavours are superb with almost any pork cut; their salty, aromatic flavours enhance and complement the taste of pork perfectly. For the marinade: ¾ cup soy sauce 2 tbsp rice wine vinegar 5 tbsp chinese 5-spice ¼ cup honey 1–2 tsp sesame oil 1.7-2kg deboned pork belly, unrolled 1 tsp vegetable oil 2tspseasaltflakes 500g courgette noodles to serve fresh coriander to garnish 1. Preheat the oven to 160ºC. 2. Mix marinade ingredients together and pour into a large roasting tray. 3. Place the pork skin side up in the marinade and marinate for 1 hour, taking care not to get too much of the marinade onto the skin. 4. Rub the skin with a little…

This month FLY LOVES! LIVING THE BEST DAY EVER BY HENDRI COETZEE (Hendri Coetzee Trust) South African Hendri Coetzee shares his perspective of the heart of Africa through his many white water adventures across the continent. Following in the footsteps of David Livingstone and Henry Morton Stanley, he became one of the most respected explorers of our time. This memoir chronicles his life on the river, the friends he admired and the magnificent places he documented. He tells humorous stories about his time as an expedition leader, snowboarder and kayaker, from a near-death experience with cannibals in the Congo to walking 1000km down the East African coast. Liza van Deventer MORE GOOD READS THE LAST STAR BY RICK YANCEY (Penguin) This is the last book of The 5th Wave trilogy.…