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I love Robyn MacLarty’s story on book clubs (page 42) because I love my own book club so deeply. The eight of us (we used to be nine) have been together for 21 years, through four divorces, one wedding, many children, too many deaths, many triumphs, and crises of confidence, belief and circumstance. Through it all, we’ve been a yardstick and a refuge for one another: they’re a collection of funny, clever and irreverent women who provide a framework for my life, and I look forward to growing even older with them. Occasionally we moot the idea of bringing our daughters in, just to spread the love – and sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have a different generation sitting around the table. I know we’re all…

FROM THE FRONTLINE I’m wide awake at 2am. My throat feels like someone is choking me. My heart is beating loud and fast… I feel a kick in my stomach, a knot in my gut. Tears roll down my cheeks, because I know I don’t have a lot of time left, and I need all my strength. But the horror, the unknown that 7am brings is haunting me. When I close my eyes, I see people dying, fighting, hurting, sick. I see alarms screaming at me as I try to do five things at once: not because I want to, but because I need to. I see my colleagues running around, exhausted, hungry, stressed from trying to cope with the incredible load on them: the expectations, the orders, the needs,…

Nabilah Kariem DIGITAL CONTENT CREATOR ‘My style is modest and contemporary, yet classic and clean. Because I observe hijab, you’ll usually find me in longer-length or oversized pieces. I prefer to keep trendy items to a minimum by pairing them with timeless basics. I also enjoy playing around with different aesthetics, depending on my mood.’ Adeola Ariyo MODEL AND HOST OF HAIR KNOCKOUT, A HAIRSTYLING REALITY SHOW ON DSTV ‘I wouldn’t say I have one particular style; I dress according to the mood I’m in. Nothing is ever planned. I visualise a look in my head and pull pieces together to execute the look. I play alot as well – one minute I’m sporty chic, next minute I’m in a fascinator, next day I’m decked out in all black.’ Claire…

IF you haven’t already binged all four seasons of the Netflix series The Crown, you really should look at the choices you’re making. The historical drama portrays the life and reign of Queen Elizabeth ll from 1947. The first season was released in 2016 but only came to South African Netflix in 2020. (Side note: South Africa was an important filming location for The Crown – scenes in the Amazon, Tonga and Australia were all filmed here!) We’ve been obsessed ever since, particularly with the marvellous Claire Foy’s portrayal of the younger queen in the first two seasons. Through her masterful performance we’re given a glimpse of what it might have been like for the young Elizabeth trying to balance her roles as mother and sovereign leader of the Commonwealth.…

The key to making friendships last is to work at them – and that applies to both new and old friendships. In a Creative Mornings Oakland session, author Kat Vellos shared an exercise she likes to do. It involves drawing or writing something on paper and sending it to a friend. Here’s how: Lean back in your chair, close your eyes, take a deep breath and think of somebody in your life you appreciate, someone you want to feel closer to, someone who matters to you. Let yourself see this person – see their face, hear what their voice sounded like the last time you talked. Think about what you appreciate about them, the things they have brought to your life, the ways they have been there for you, the…

Dr Rein shares a number of tools in her book Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Barrier to Women’s Success and Happiness. Here are two easy ones to get you started: REPOWER TOOL This tool takes only 1–2 minutes and has a cumulative effect: the more often you take breaks throughout the day to use it, the more your nervous system will settle. It’s invaluable in helping to ‘disarm’ the danger (stress) responses that crop up throughout the day. Sitting or lying down, feel the sensations of your feet on the ground, your body supported by the furniture, your breath moving your ribcage, belly and back. Take your five senses on a tour of the environment: take in the space around you through your eyes; your ears; and your senses of…

THE uncertainty we’ve all felt in the past year has left many of us feeling rudderless. A mentor can provide guidance and be a calming presence during such a difficult time. Santam suggests three types of mentor-ship that could benefit your business: 1 PEER-TO-PEER MENTORSHIP This is the best approach for a new employee joining the organisation, especially in a remote work setup. It will help to smooth onboarding and introduce the new member of the team to the company culture. 2 CAREER MENTORSHIP Career mentors serve as coaches, assisting mentees to reach professional goals. They help to provide direction to anyone hoping to move up the ranks. 3 LIFE MENTORSHIP A life mentor is great for someone who is searching for synergy between professional development and their greater life…

Watching him walk ahead of me to the car after our early-morning swim two years ago, it struck me that my beloved mountain-hiking househusband, Chris, was developing a slight stoop and a shuffle. ‘Straighten up, Sweetheart; lift those feet!’ Ichided. ‘You’re not a grandpa yet.’ ‘It’s my sandals,’ he shot back with a grin, squaring his shoulders, and I left it. In the weeks that followed I noticed he was doing fewer laps in the pool. ‘Just taking it easy,’ he said. ‘What’s the rush?’ And because he’s walked quite slowly for years, I left it. When he began stopping by my home-office desk to ask for back rubs, he told me that after 60 your back gets stiff sometimes. Besides, he’s always been a sucker for a massage. So…

CHAMPAGNE CRUSTAS MAKES 6 PREP TIME: 5 MINUTES A crusta is a vintage cocktail containing spirit, lemon juice (in this case orange juice), sugar and aromatic bitters. • 120 ml freshly squeezed orange juice • 40 ml elderflower liqueur • 40 ml almond syrup (see note) • 40 ml brandy • a few dashes of bitters • caster sugar, to serve • 1 orange wedge, for rubbing • 750 ml chilled Champagne or sparkling wine • 6 thinly peeled strips of orange rind, to serve 1. Mix orange juice, elderflower liqueur, almond syrup, brandy and bitters in a mixing glass half-filled with ice and stir with a bar spoon until chilled. 2. Place caster sugar in a shallow bowl. Rub an orange wedge around the rims of 6 chilled Champagne coupes or flutes, or wine glasses, then dip the…

SHAPE & SIZE: Start by measuring your oven. Also check that the dish accommodates a roast without it touching the sides. The height of a roaster makes a big difference: low sides allow hot air to circulate around the item, cooking and browning it well. High-sided dishes prevent circulation around the lower parts of the meat during roasting. Medium height would seem best. WEIGHT: Your dish should be solid and heavy enough to handle heat without warping, but not hard to lift. Heavier dishes usually perform better, as heat is distributed more evenly. HANDLES: Straight, solid metal handles riveted to the dish are best. Fold-down handles are great for storage, but some are flimsy and tricky to grip. They also need to accommodate oven mitts. RACK: This is a matter…

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We’re going away for the weekend, as we often do: my husband is a big fan of anything involving the boondocks, campfires and Venter trailers. This time, though, we’re going away with four friends to an actual house, with a roof and a floor, and it’s only a four-hour drive away. Lockdown has really softened him up. The plan is to leave on Friday, 12 sharp. After 21 years of marriage, I’ve learnt that that translates to about 3 pm in English. The idea is that my husband and I cook on the first night (the prime position on these weekends, because it means you can do nothing for the rest of the time). I’ve been trying to discuss with him what we should cook for weeks, because if it…

Nabilah Kariem The ideal pair of jeans is... I honestly love revolving my denim styles as the trends change, as long as they’re not too tight! What is your go-to feel good outfit? I love high/low dressing... so maybe something very casual and comfortable paired with some sort of blazer. What kind of jewellery do you like? Gold and simple, always. I prefer simple pieces, as they’re easier to layer on top of one another. Where do you normally find the best pieces? Some of my favourites are from Kelly Jay Jewellery and Pichulik. What is the biggest misconception around modest fashion? There are so many. That dressing modestly is forced upon Muslim women – when it’s not at all. That dressing modestly is only for Muslims or super-religious people,…

Being royal doesn’t come naturally to anyone, as we all know. Claire Foy told Chelsea Handler how she had to relearn everything: how to talk and behave, even how to eat. PALACE ETIQUETTE ‘We have a team of researchers, and we have a guy on the set called Major David, who only recently stopped working at the palace. He tells us when we’re misbehaving and when we’re not doing things right.’ THE QUEEN AND I When asked how Claire thinks she is different to the queen, she said, ‘I’m quite “skippy-aroundy” and flighty, and she’s not like that at all. INNER STRENGTH ‘The idea that she only learnt she was going to be queen when she was 10, and what that must do to a 10-year-old… And then for it…

She was going to be our baby and the little sister to our daughter, filling that little space reserved for so long for a fourth member of our family. She was our last hope after years of hoping, of trying everything. Three months before, we had reached the end of a long road of trying to get pregnant the fun way. Except after three years it stops being fun and becomes a draining cycle of counting calendar days, discussing mucus, monotonous sex (touching your husband, you get a raised eyebrow and a desperate, ‘Do we have to?’), waiting, feeling the menstrual hormones building up, hoping you are imagining them, seeing the blood, crashing into disappointment. Then counting days again, discussing mucus, monotonous sex, waiting, feeling hormonal, hoping you’re imagining it,…

I've been a fan of Dolly’s for ever. (‘Is it okay if I call you Dolly?’ ‘What else would you call me – Reba?’) I loved her long before her Glastonbury appearance in 2014 rebadged her as ‘cool’ – as if she cares about cool – and in the weeks leading up to this meeting I’ve had sleepless nights soundtracked by earworms of ‘Dumb Blonde’, her first US chart hit (‘Just because I’m blonde/ Don’t think I’m dumb/’Cause this dumb blonde ain’t nobody’s fool’). And I sobbed again at the crystalline beauty of ‘I Will Always Love You’ – written for the leery, sharp-suited country legend Porter Wagoner when she left his show, her much-dissected double act with him the platform that launched her on the road to superstardom. And…

I am the last born of four daughters in an Indian family, which obviously means my birth was a tragedy. Well, at least for those who congratulated my mother with, ‘I’m so sorry,’ or, ‘Better luck next time,’ or who said things amongst themselves like it was a shame that it was a girl, again. Now, I don’t have kids so I’m not sure what it’s like, but can you imagine carrying a human being inside you for the better part of a year and going through blood, sweat and tears to get it out only to hear, ‘Better luck next time!’ It should have been my first clue that people in this world I had just come into could be totally bonkers. I mean if it had been me…

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‘Our oldest client so far was 81,’ Mareldia says. They can technically help most body types, but those who would see the best results are people who would like to lose up to 7kg. Candidates who want lose more than that would need multiple procedures. ‘People see liposuction and expect to lose the fat instantly because it’s removed right there and then, but with fat freezing your body will need 30 to 40 days before you see the final results.’ This is because the cooled fat cells, which die within a few days after treatment, are removed by macrophages (specialised white blood cells that ingest and degrade dead cells) over the next month or so, and you excrete them. PROS The procedure permanently removes fat cells from the body. It…

FASHION Bohemian chic H&M has collaborated with noted Indian fashion designer Sabyasachi, known for his dynamic use of indigenous crafts and textiles. Named Wanderlust, the collection mixes modern and traditional silhouettes with a nod to athleisure and glamping. The colours are fresh and the prints eclectic. The collection – available from May at H&M stores in Sandton City and Gateway Theatre – comprises stunning dresses, drawstring pants, blouses, kaftans and accessories.hm.com/za MUSIC Classical streaming Primephonic is a streaming service designed for classical music. It has an impressive catalogue that includes widely celebrated composers as well as lesser-known artists. You can download tracks or choose the Hi-Res Audio streaming option, which offers a superior listening experience if you have the right equipment. The service isn’t free, but you can try it…

CHICAGO METALLIC ROASTING PAN WITH RACK ABOUT R430; YUPPIECHEF 34 X 24 X 6CM A good budget-friendly option, this dish is perfect for cooking small servings. It is light, compact and easy to handle. The dish heated up quickly and its performance was relatively good, but it was a bit slower at cooking the food than some of the other dishes. The chicken was cooked through, succulent and lightly browned, but firmer vegetables were not done within the testing time. Seared meat also required a longer cooking time and didn’t brown as nicely as we would have liked within the test time. The dish has a rim but no handles, so it may be awkward to handle with bulky oven mitts. It comes with a rack – although not big…

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◗ BEEF CURRY WITH BLACK PEPPER & CINNAMON SERVES 4 • ¼tsp chilli powder • ½tsp ground turmeric • 1tsp ground cumin • 2tsp ground coriander • 1tsp garam masala • 2tsp freshly ground black pepper • 2red onions, peeled and grated coarsely • 900 g chuck steak, trimmed of excess fat and cut into 4 cm pieces • 6garlic cloves, grated finely • 1tbsp finely grated fresh root ginger • 2tbsp sunflower oil • 2tbsp tomato paste • 2tsp honey • 1tbsp red-wine vinegar • 1½ tsp sea salt • 350 ml (1½ cups) beef stock • 1green bird’s eye chilli • 1cinnamon stick • 2bay leaves • 3tbsp chopped coriander leaves, to serve • cooked rice, to serve • plain yoghurt, to serve 1. Preheat the oven to 160°C/gas mark 3. Pour 4 tbsp hot water into a small bowl and mix in the chilli powder, turmeric, cumin, coriander, garam…

Forgive Me BY SUSAN LEWIS Claudia Winters is on the run from her abusive husband, Marcus, a banker with links to the underground world of drug dealers and gangsters. She’s endured so much that she decides to change her identity, along with that of her teenage daughter, Jasmine, and her mother, Marcy. After they relocate, Claudia gradually begins to relax and stops looking over her shoulder. She feels safe in the knowledge that Marcus has been sent to prison, but remains aware of the fact that he will eventually find her and wreak his revenge. She buys a house, makes new friends and re-establishes her previously successful business. The narrative is interspersed with letters from a 19-year-old prison inmate, Archie. When his actions collide with Claudia’s new life, we find…

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