FREQUENTLY, I’ve heard versions of “the problem in this… (relationship, family, business, school, church, charity, hospital, whatever) is that there is no communication”.
This is usually the mantra of those on the “outside” of the decision-making process. It’s repeated especially when those on the “outside” of decision-making are either supposed to be on the inside, according to their roles, or those who think they should be.
There is never “no communication”. Individuals and groups are constantly communicating. The breakdown is often a failure to hear, “read”, discern or believe what it is being communicated. Discerning what is being communicated in a living system, where there is said to be no communication, takes a mix of courage, honesty and risk. It takes the capacity to realise that what is being communicated…