I LOVE families no matter how complex, and all are.
No exceptions.
After many years of being in a family and consulting with families, here are a few enduring truths:
• Faith, language, culture, nationality, wealth or poverty, education or lack of education, make little difference in how people love and hurt one another. Jealousy is jealousy, selfishness is selfishness. Brave love is brave love and forgiveness is powerful, no matter where or who you are.
• Themes repeat in families despite loving efforts to avoid negative generational patterns. An ignored problem does not disappear. It will go into hiding, brew and emerge into something more pernicious.
• But change, real change, is possible. Authentic change comes at a cost that’s well worth it. Nonetheless, there will always be some…