Innehållsförteckning för Jul/Aug 2023 från Fairlady

there is one divide in my book club (21 years and still going strong), and it’s between those who like true adventure books and those who don’t. I’ve always been one of the latter. I’ve never understood why someone would want to climb a mountain they’d possibly have to bite their own toes off to get down again. It just doesn’t make sense in a world where there are couches, books, family and friends. Why would you leave all that behind to deliberately put yourself somewhere cold and dangerous? But South African Kirsten Neuschäfer (page 46) may have changed that for me. I’ve watched loads of interviews with her since she won the Golden Globe Race, a solo, non-stop, round the world yacht race–using no modern technology at all. It’s…

‘My style is casual and functional. I believe a wardrobe should be versatile: when I buy any garment, shoe or accessory, I consider how I am going to style it in different ways while being cognisant of the trend.’…

for years, we’ve been trained to ‘rise and grind’. To ‘hustle harder’. Sheryl Sandberg told us to lean in. Sophia Amoruso turned #girlboss into a thing. (How condescending, by the way–show me one male CEO who has been called a #boyboss.) Labelling yourself a ‘workaholic’ became a humblebrag. And at some point, the notion of work shifted from being a job (a necessary evil, a way to pay your bills) to a career (a key part of your identity, a status symbol) to a calling (your life’s purpose). When we meet someone for the first time, one of the first things we usually ask is, ‘So what do you do?’ Or we’ll ask a 4-year-old, ‘What do you want to be when you grow up?’, smiling indulgently when they say…

A child of the ’80s, Kathryn Smith was brought up on episodes of Police File and MacGyver. ‘I think the first time I knew facial reconstruction was possible was from an episode of MacGyver. I remember watching it–I think I was 12–and I thought, “Okay, this is it.” It obviously stuck with me.’ These days, Kathryn is an interdisciplinary visual artist, curator, and senior lecturer at Stellenbosch University’s Department of Visual Arts, although it is her work around forensic facial identification and depiction that has grabbed our attention. With her expertise in both traditional and digital visual and artistic imaging, she plays a vital role in assisting with the identification of unknown people, both living and deceased. Kathryn specialises in giving a face to unidentified bodies–bringing an end to these…

Period. Period. Period. It’s 2023 and people still get uncomfortable when confronted with the word. Zizipho Ntobongwana, founder and director of Sheba Feminine, is on a mission to change the way South Africa talks about sex and menstruation. With her range of biodegradable and organic menstrual products, she caters for customers who value ethical consumerism. Did you grow up in a family that was open about sex? I grew up in a typical family from the Eastern Cape, where there was no conversation about sex. START-UP COSTS: ‘We launched Sheba with an initial investment of about R200000, primarily for product research, development and branding. The feminine health sector involves significant costs, and it took us almost two years to get the product and branding just right.’ TURNOVER: ‘We’re a passionate start-up,…

Sam Linsell Sam, a cookbook author and the person behind the enormously popular food and travel blog DrizzleandDip.com, shares her recipe for (comforting) romance. ‘In early 2018 I won a trip to Amsterdam, and decided that, since I was so close, I would bolt on a week in Paris. I hadn’t been for 11 years, so I was eager to experience the City of Light again, but this time through my enhanced foodie filter. ‘I’d always wanted to travel to Paris with an amant, but this time–my second solo trip–it was not to be, since I was still quite happily single at the time, apart from desiring a romantic travel companion, of course. As I explored the city eateries, one of the standout dishes was a perfect French onion soup,…

This chef, cookbook author, blogger and media personality has become well known for drawing from her Indian heritage and her upbringing in Durban to create sumptuously soothing dishes with a dash of audacity. ‘When I was a child, my aunt went to culinary school, and when she returned home she made us a kind of pea dhal soup, with bacon. I thought the flavour combination was a really good idea, so that was in the back of my mind when I created this recipe. ‘This dish just embodies being naughty to me. First, because of the preparation: I’ll make the bacon in the air-fryer, then cook the onion in the fat from the air-fryer, which is kind of counterintuitive because a lot of people will use an air-fryer to remove…

1 Remove triggers Triggers are anything that exacerbates bloating, indigestion, constipation and an irritable bowel. This is often sugar, yeast, gluten and dairy; however, everyone’s gut is different, so keep a food diary to help track your triggers. 2 Go for variety Eating healthy foods is great, but it doesn’t nourish all of your gut microbiome. Mix it up: eat different greens and vegetables every day and add nuts, seeds, seaweed and healthy wholegrains. 3 Add garlic and herbs Garlic and oregano can be helpful in eliminating any potential yeast overgrowth. 4 Munch on amino acids and enzymes Glutamine, an amino acid present in animal and plant proteins, has a wonderful ability to restore and repair your gut lining. Bromelain, found in pineapple, and papain, found in papaya, are natural enzymes that can…

“Essentially, I use your body’s own ability to regenerate your skin. you’ve probably heard of the vampire facial–or at least seen a selfie or two of celebs with blood smeared on their faces. If the idea freaks you out, don’t worry, says Dr Marisa Heyns of the medical aesthetics clinic Dr Nerina Wilkinson + Associates–these bloody facials are purely for the ’gram. ‘We’ve taken the Halloween out of it and created an advanced version, known as the Dr Vampire Treatment, which is a bespoke 3D MD PRP experience.’ What is PRP? Short for platelet-rich plasma, PRP is derived from the patient’s own blood. Blood is made up of various components, including red blood cells, white blood cells and plasma. Plasma, the liquid component, contains platelets that are rich in growth…

a refreshing aperitif Lillet Rosé (pronounced Lee-LAY Rose-AY) is a winebased aperitif that’s low in sugar and alcohol, which is unusual–it’s often one or the other. This righton-trend drink has in fact been around since 1872, but only this year found its way to South Africa. Made from high-quality grapes from Bordeaux and fortified with a blend of citrus liqueurs, Lillet Rosé is a gorgeous deep pink and tastes of berries, orange blossom and grapefruit… in other words, it tastes like summer. And we could all do with a bit of that right now. Drink chilled on its own or as part of a cocktail: the perfect ratio is one part Lillet Rosé to two parts tonic water over ice, garnished with a wedge of lime, or a slice of…

ACROSS 1. Waist sash 6. Persian Gulf kingdom 10. Audience numbers 15. Pelts 18. Playground toys 19. Enwrap 20. Bacterium 22. Whole 23. Impose 24. Digging tools 25. Guerrilla hero, … Guevara 26. Archfiend 28. Supply (feast) (3,2) 30. Illegal drug (1,1,1) 31. Jewish minister 32. Tiny landmass 33. Arranges, … up 34. California’s San … 35. Fawn 37. Islamic governor 39. Thick … brick (2,1) 40. Inca land 42. Cycled 45. Fortified wine 48. … and Frau 49. Hitler follower 50. Countless 53. Military policemen (1,2) 54. Carpentry fasteners 56. Laptop memory units 59. Surprised, taken … 61. Vast expanse 62. Crumbly Greek cheese 63. … On a Hot Tin Roof 64. Israeli port, … Aviv 65. Candidates’ assessment 66. File lawsuit 68. Mementos 69. Vitality 70. Movie stars…

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WINNING LETTER Just now… I procrastinated about reading your article about procrastination. Then I made myself read it by telling myself I couldn’t read more of my FAIRLADY if I hadn’t first read the whole thing. Then, mid-way, I decided it was ridiculous to be a procrastinator, so I surrounded myself with the necessary forms and statements needed to make a medical aid claim I had been procrastinating about for weeks. Then I procrastinated again about doing that and only completed it hours later when I had peeped ahead and knew I wanted urgently to read the next article. When I had finished reading it I knew I was the Defier type of procrastinating procrastinator, and I just hope strategies 4 and 5 help me. I’m going to do it……

Keneilwe Mothoa Fashion, interior and textile designer, and co-owner of Neimil ‘My personal style is very clean-cut and changes according to the mood I’m in on a specific day or an aura I’m channelling. I like to have staples in my closet that I can mix and match. I can go from being super-minimal to very eclectic.’…

Keneilwe Mothoa “Wear what you like. If it feels and looks good to you, own it. Tell us a bit about Neimil. Neimil is a brand that is centred on design and the sharing of stories that are influenced by African history and heritage. ’The design style is Afro-futuristic and plays on the idea of ‘future nostalgia’; just capturing memories in everything we design. What are your favourite wardrobe items right now? I bought a pair of leopard-print loafers from Poetry–something out of my comfort zone but I fell in love instantly–as well as my blue Meadow tassel skirt from Neimil. What’s one shop you can’t resist popping into? I don’t really shop a lot. But I can’t resist Zara Home and Weylandts. I like the feeling of being in…

Liezel Reddek, F8 Tops ‘My husband and I went to Vietnam on our honeymoon–and we really didn’t pack correctly,’ Liezel says. ‘We were there for a month and it was raining and we’d only brought one jacket each, so we had to wear them everywhere: we were driving around on motorbikes in these jackets, we’d go out clubbing in them, we’d go to restaurants. Everywhere in the same jacket. All our photos look exactly the same! So the one day, about two weeks in, we stopped on the pass in Laos, and I said to him, “I want to invent the ultimate travel jacket. One that you can be casual in and that you can be fancy in. So if you pack only one or two of them, you’ve got…

Winter has brought the cold, and many of us are heating our homes and offices to stay cosy. Coupled with lit candles and potentially faulty wiring or appliances, this significantly increases the risk of sparking a fire.Needless to say, fire-related property insurance claims rise sharply during the cold winter months. Given this high risk, it’s important to check your insurance policy to ensure you are adequately covered. ◗ FIRE INSURANCE IS ESSENTIAL Covering the cost of fire damage without insurance can be financially devastating for anyone. Flames, smoke and the water used to extinguish a fire can severely damage buildings and belongings. If you are not adequately insured, it may not be possible to rebuild or repair damages. ◗ PREVENTION FIRST The adage ‘prevention is better than cure’ most definitely…

Boeber SERVES 4–6 • 45ml (3 tbsp) butter• 160g (1½ cups) crushed vermicelli or lokshen pasta• 5 cinnamon sticks• 5 cardamom pods• 150g (¾ cup) sago, soaked in water for 1 hour and drained• a pinch of salt• 1ℓ (4 cups) milk• 100g (½ cup) sugar, or to taste 1. In a large pot, heat the butter on a medium heat and add the pasta, cinnamon sticks and cardamom pods. Cook until the pasta has turned a golden brown, stirring constantly to prevent it from burning. 2. Add the rest of the ingredients and cook for about 20 minutes, stirring occasionally. fatima’s recipes, infused with Cape Malay culture and childhood memories, have captured the hearts of many South African fans. Her boeber recipe–adapted from her new cookbook Fatima Sydow–Cape Malay Cooking:…

avoid spikes! Eat more and lose weight… That sounds illogical, right? Yet French biochemist Jessie Inchauspé, in her book The Glucose Goddess Method, claims you can lose weight by keeping your blood sugar levels steady. Blood sugar spikes, which happen when you have a build-up of glucose in your bloodstream, are bad for your health because they cause fatigue and sugar cravings, and if they happen too often they can lead to type 2 diabetes, heart disease and stroke. Let’s say you’re having pasta for lunch. Jessie’s research shows that if you eat it on its own, you can expect to see a big blood sugar spike afterwards. Enjoy a salad beforehand, though, and you digest fibre before carbohydrates, enabling your body to process the carbs more effectively and without…

A healthy digestive system isn’t just about what you eat but also about physical activity. Gentle exercise, such as yoga, is a simple way to stimulate the colon, which can provide both immediate and long-term relief. Improvement in digestion should help to improve nutrient absorption, waste and toxin removal, sleep quality and better balance of certain mood-calming hormones, not to mention the freedom of simply being free of bloating, which can cause distention, foul gas and a foul mood. In yoga, the combination of stretches targeting the abdominal organs and twists that massage the colon stimulates muscular contraction so that things are gently moved along the digestive tract. Sometimes the results are immediate–the famous yoga fart!–but it’s mostly about being consistent over time, as that increases and maintains digestive flow.…

ACROSS 1. A good job the Romans were without a remedy for it! (8) 4. Fifty would make it a tree: a thousand, a month (4) 8. The spare child-spoiler (3) 9. Is uncertain as to how five got the fever (5) 10. It is by way of those five giving one a finish (3) 11. Having studied S American country, half missed the finish (7) 12. Go to one’s rest or return to nothing on the street (5) 13. Is this a vessel for the codirector? (11) 17. It takes a month and, for the French, eight musicians (5) 18. A person who does an impressive job (7) 20. Pouch one almost gets on dismissal (3) 21. It is due to being in the red (5) 22. Food item…

ACROSS 1. Persian 6. Uncivilised person 11. Bisected 15. Enduring hit, golden … 16. Take place 17. Fitted (in) 18. Maize variety (5,4) 21. Partook of liquor 22. Pencil rubber 23. Rob (bank) (4,2) 24. Hard work 28. Drawing pin 30. Fun objects 32. African fly 35. Coniferous tree 37. Aggravates 38. Hi! 40. Actress, … Biel 43. Runners 45. Ration 47. Designer, Calvin … 48. Cosmetic 52. New Year’s Eve (1,1,1) 53. Trade slump 56. Rouse 58. … and lassie 60. Unchecked descent (4,4) 61. Masterstrokes 62. Dithery 64. Poorly 65. Perform slalom 67. Surrender (4,4) 69. Residence 72. Tidiness 75. Green gemstone 77. Sinful 78. Compulsion 79. … and papa 81. Sense of injury 83. Respond 84. Burdened 86. Large sedan, stretch … 87. Emerge 90. Wonky 92.…

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‘I mix it up with eclectic pieces. I’ve always liked second-hand clothing and I love fashion history, so I like pieces that reference different styles and periods.’…

Writer Joan Didion dubbed the year her husband died ‘the year of magical thinking’. Many who grieve will identify with that–with her reluctance to give away his suits and shoes, because he would need them, surely, when he came back? But beyond understandable denial, researchers have reported an upsurge during grief of incidents of synchronicity–of ‘meaningful coincidence’. Incidents we may previously have dismissed as chance but that seem, from where we suddenly stand, to ‘represent a bridge between matter and mind’, as late British quantum physicist and writer F. David Peat put it. Or, as I did when our son died, to ‘rip the fabric of the material world, revealing a hint of something beyond’. A song starts playing on random select from 6000 on the memory stick a friend…

If you were hoping for a quick summary of Jay Shetty’s book 8 Rules of Love so you don’t have to read it yourself, I’m sorry to disappoint. (If it’s for book club and you just didn’t get around to it, this should help give you some talking points, at least.) Instead, here are some of the things that, at first glance, struck me as odd for a book on finding and keeping love–words of wisdom you won’t find embroidered on a pillow or printed on a fridge magnet anytime soon! First off, you’re probably wondering what a former monk knows about romantic love. To be fair, Jay was a monk for only three years; he’s now been happily married for seven, and he has since made a name for…

PLEASE MIRA LEIBOWITZ AND GREG SHER It’s been a few months since Mira Leibowitz and Greg Sher launched Please, and they’ve since found a growing community of singles and couples who are looking for a fresh and inviting space to shop for intimate products. How did Please come about? Mira: For years, I’ve wanted to open a sex store. I stumbled on an Instagram account for the Italian sex store Wovo and I just loved everything about it. It made this kind of space seem fun, normal and exciting. It inspired me to want to open something similar. Greg: We were both between jobs, and I was seeing a business and life coach because I wasn’t really sure where to go from there. The more I discussed it, the more…

On Christmas Day 2022, I woke early, dressed swiftly and headed for my destination. No time to linger and enjoy the views of Vembanad Lake from the Grand Hyatt Kochi Bolgatty lobby or to admire the treasures in the hotel’s jewel-box store. My husband and I had one goal in mind: the Malabar Café and the buffet breakfast for which the hotel is renowned. We joined families, honeymoon couples and Christmas-time tourists to survey pastry, cheese and fruit stands, tables of casseroles and curries, and cooking stations where chefs steamed, grilled, fried and magicked up a cornucopia of spicy South Indian dishes. I settled on two dosa with coconut and peanut chutneys, three idli with a side of masala so hot it was called ‘gunpowder’, and a generous serving of…

Gli, the proprietor and head chef of the family-run restaurant The Persian Peacock, prefers to remain mysterious… yet he can’t resist sharing his passion for Iranian cuisine. Here, he lets us in on a few secrets to making the perfect saffron ice cream, known as bastani. ‘Did you know that the ancient Iranians, or Persians–not the Italians–were the first to invent ice cream? When the first snows arrived in winter, they would gather some of the purest snow, after the first few layers had fallen, and serve it with flavoured fruit syrups–which also originated in Iran–and various toppings. This was the earliest form of faloodeh, a sorbet-like cold dessert popular in traditional Iranian cuisine. ‘Now, one thing that is very important to know about the origins of Iranian cuisine is…

‘Embedded in the challenge is the gift.’ Richard Sutton’s latest book, Thrive: The Power of Resilience, begins with these words–and it’s clear from the first pages that he’s taken them to heart. He then gives a harrowing account of the physical abuse he endured at the hands of his stepfather.’ The all-too-common consequences of alcohol dependence and financial struggle meant his home life was one of disruption, hostility and neglect. He avoided being at home for longer than absolutely necessary, which meant his school work suffered and he came to believe that he was destined for ‘a life of mediocrity’. ‘To compound matters, I discovered [decades later] that I have several gene variants that increase my vulnerability to adversity by amplifying my reactivity to stress and limiting my ability to…

Alot has changed in the business world over the past three years. The pandemic irrevocably altered the workplace and what it requires from its leaders. The rapid adoption of technology and the introduction of remote and hybrid work models have impacted the way leaders engage with their teams, both from a practical perspective and on an emotional level. Productivity vs wellbeing On the one hand, you have employees who are able to manage their time and workload effectively. In fact, their productivity often increases because they feel the need to prove they are producing results. But this constant ‘always on’ pressure eventually begins to take its toll, and they begin to suffer mentally–at which point productivity declines. On the other hand, there are employees who struggle with the flexibility of…

Can you boost ceramides through diet? Yes, you can! ‘Nourishing your skin with ceramide-rich foods means that you are helping to boost these healthy cells from the inside out,’ says dietician Lola Biggs. Opt for foods rich in omega-3 and omega-6–think fatty fish and flaxseeds. ‘I’d also suggest eating more dairy, eggs, wheatgerm, brown rice, spinach, sweet potatoes and soya beans,’ she says. ‘These are all high in ceramides.’…

Teatime treats TIRAMISU CAKE MAKES A 20 CM  THREE-LAYER CAKE • 3 eggs, at room temperature• 1 egg white, at room temperature• 140 g caster sugar• 5ml (1 tsp) vanilla extract• 140 g cake wheat flour• 50 g dark chocolate (70%), grated• 40ml (2 heaped tbsp) dark cocoa powder MASCARPONE CREAM • 3 eggs, at room temperature, separated• 750 g mascarpone cheese• 180 g caster sugar COFFEE MARSALA SYRUP • 250 ml (1 cup) espresso coffee• 100 ml (⅖ cup) Marsala 1. Preheat the oven to 180°C. Trace a 20cm circle onto three sheets of baking paper and place each sheet on a baking tray with the circle side facing down. (This will ensure no ink touches the savoiardi layers when baking.) Fit a piping bag with a 1cm round…

The energy in the room changed.’ What started as a friendly conversation with her gynaecologist during an ultrasound turned serious when Melanie Verwoerd’s doctor discovered a growth on her ovary. In her book Never Waste a Good Hysterectomy, Melanie says she felt like she was standing in front of a dam wall, watching cracks start to form. Melanie’s is a name that’s familiar to most South Africans. In the 1990s, she and her then-husband Wilhelm Verwoerd, the grandson of former South African prime minister Hendrik Verwoerd, the ‘architect of apartheid’, made headlines when they joined the ANC. Melanie became the youngest woman ANC MP, and served in the first democratic parliament under then-president Nelson Mandela. Two children later, Melanie was appointed as the South African ambassador to Ireland. The couple…

Complete the crossword, write down the letters in the coloured blocks, and use them to find the answer to the question above. SMS the keyword MegaXword 188, your answer and your email address to 37174. An SMS costs R1.50; free SMSes do not apply. ACROSS 1. Griddle 5. Solar system model 11. Hamper 15. Overly 16. Irish movement (1,1,1) 17. Hollered 19. Undivided 21. Increased 23. Improve (law) 25. Consumption 27. Actively involved (5-2) 28. Tawdry 30. Excellent! 31. Wayward 32. Food judge 33. Fibbed 34. Gets 35. Inert 36. Contract 38. Capsize, … over 40. Oral contraceptive 42. Bona fide 44. Karma 45. Varnish ingredient 46. Apple Inc tablet 48. Light shoe 49. Telephone 50. Gape at 51. Afternoon crockery (3,3) 52. New Zealand bird 53. Couturier, … Chanel…

Seabirds Albatross Auk Booby Cormorant Eider Frigatebird Fulmar Gannet Gull Osprey Pelican Penguin Petrel Puffin Tern Wine farms Alto D'Aria Doolhof Dornier Kanonkop Meerlust Nitida Reyneke Saxenburg Secateurs Spier Steenberg Tokara Uitsig Waterford Horse breeds Appaloosa Arabian Breton Criollo Fjord Friesian Haflinger Hucul Konik Lipizzan Mustang Norika Shetland Shire Rhymes with ‘air’ Affair Aware Chair Compare Err Everywhere Flair Forebear Hair Homeware Pear Stare Their Turn to page 175 for the solutions to these WORD SEARCHES…

MegaXword 1 MegaXword 2 Brainteaser 1 Brainteaser 2 Sudoku Very easy Easy Medium Difficult Very easy Easy Medium Difficult Word search Code words Cryptic 1 ACROSS: 1. Sinecure 4. Arch 8. Rod 9. Vague 10. Via 11. Perused 12. Roost 13. Partnership 17. Octet 18. Printer 20. Sac 21. Owing 22. Nut 23. Shed 24. Feckless DOWN: 1. Script 2. Nadir 3. Rigid 5. Ravioli 6. Hearth 7. Refreshing 9. Visitation 14. Article 15. Boosts 16. Brutus 18. Prize 19. Tinge Cryptic 2 ACROSS: 1. Information 8. Harridan 9. Fish 10. Verso 13. Ruin 16. Oath 17. Blue 18. Earl 20. Party 24. Exit 25. Palatial 26. Destitution  DOWN: 2. Norm 3. Oxide 4. Means 5. Infer 6. Chronometer 7. Thunderbolt 11. Run-up 12. Order 14. Ugly 15. Stir 19.…

Winners! Congrats to our WINNERS MegaXword 185 Sally Win Loudon from KwaDukuza Brainteaser 184 Anne Olver from Bergvliet Karen Hewitt from Ngodwana Haroldina Jonker from Randburg HOW TO ENTER MEGAXWORD & BRAINTEASER The MegaXword and Brainteaser crossword competitions close on 17 August 2023. To enter the MegaXword competition, SMS the keyword MegaXword 188, your answer and your email address to 37174. To enter the Brainteaser competition, SMS the keyword Brainteaser 187, your answer and your email address to 37174. An SMS costs R1.50; free SMSs do not apply. Also read the standard terms and conditions below. STANDARD TERMS AND CONDITIONS 1. Competitions and giveaways are open to permanent residents of South Africa over the age of 18. 2. The judges’ decision is final and no correspondence will be entered into. 3.…

‘We need to do something about the rat,’ I said to my husband, who had taken to standing at his home office window and staring at said rat scurrying around the garden. Apparently I should have been more specific, because he took that to mean we had to name the rat, which was really not what I had been going for. Also, any fool could see that Ratniss Everdeen was a ridiculous name. Ratney Dangerfield was a strong contender for a while there, but after much heated debate we finally settled on Rat Stewart. Partly because of the striking similarity between his and his near-namesake’s hair, but mostly because we’d both been working from home far too long. To be fair, Rat Stewart is not even close to being the…