Indholdsfortegnelse for July 2018 i Fairlady

I am a minimalist sleeper. If sleep were décor, mine would be Scandinavian. I’ve battled with it at various times of my life for as long as I can remember, and I know there are plenty of you who are in the same position. In a way I’m almost used to it and it hardly bothers me any more: I read, think, mull over things or plan what I’ll do when I win the lotto. (Of course, I have to enter first, but that doesn’t seem to be a problem in the middle of the night.) I’ve learned to recognise the 3am Dreads for what they are and banish them until daylight, when they vaporise all by themselves. And sometimes I get up the following day feeling very directed and…

A Spindel 6.5kg dryer and a luxe winter fur pile throw worth more than R3000! We know and love the Spindel dryer as the eco-friendly #LaundryLifesaver, removing moisture from clothes in a fraction of the time, without the high-energy costs of a tumble dryer – but did you know that Spindel can help your household save water too? Handwashing with grey water is a good way to conserve water. Spindel uses spin power to extract buckets of water that can be reused for your next load. Plus, it won’t damage delicate fabrics and is safe for knitwear. Visit SpindelSA on Facebook for tips and info. WRITE TO letters@fairlady.com…

You don’t need a big budget to have an effective marketing plan. But it’s vital to have a clear vision and objective for your business. These 5 W’s and 1 H will help you take the first steps in marketing your business. • WHY: The crucial first step. Ask yourself why you want to do marketing. This will give you your objective, a clear goal to work towards. • WHAT: The things that make your business unique. Once you know why, focus on what is special about your business. This is what makes your business unique to customers. • WHO: Know your customer. To effectively speak to your customers, you need to know who they are and what they want. • WHERE: Find your customers. Once you know who you…

WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE YOUR YOUNGER SELF? ‘Marry someone who is sensible when it comes to money.’ – Tanya, 46 ‘Invest in more me-time. Do core-building daily. Breathe and blink before you react. Drink warm lemon-ginger water first thing in the morning. Invest time in yourself. Take lessons and learn how to connect your mind with your body through dance. And make time to be a kid with your kids every day.’ – Mariette, 39 ‘Take more chances. As a woman in your 20s or 30s, you should be wearing a bathing suit with confidence. This is the best you will ever look!’ – Louise, 62 ❛ Take more chances. As a woman in your 20s or 30s, you should be wearing a bathing suit with confidence. This is…

STRESS LESS Inflammation is good if it’s temporary: if you’re injured or infected, your body will swell to protect that area. But high stress leads to chronic or continuous inflammation and, believes Edward Bullmore, professor of psychiatry at Cambridge University, there is growing evidence of a link between that and depression. ‘We know a lot of those cells and proteins that drive inflammation in the body can get into the brain… There is evidence that nerve cells exposed to inflammation are… less good at learning, less likely to replace themselves and may be more likely to die. The sequence of events starts with inflammation in the body and ultimately changes moods and behaviours.’ No pressure – but you need to de-stress! Or at least have a daily golden latte (see…

Upon my return to South Africa, I found myself in the throes of unrelenting jet lag: I woke up and went to bed feeling hellishly nauseous and wired. And the most distressing and unexpected symptom was how anxious I felt – which made my sleeplessness worse. And we’re not talking two or three nights here; I was well into week two of being back home! I trawled the web (when you’re not sleeping at 3am you have a lot of time to search for what might be wrong with you) and made a list of the remedies I found online. The next morning comedian Joe Rogan, who hosts a conversation-style podcast with people from various fields, released an episode in which he spoke to professor of neuroscience Matthew Walker, one…

BLACK, BUT NOT BASIC A black blazer is a wardrobe staple, but that doesn’t mean it has to be plain; we love the ruched detailing this one has at the waist. LITTLE RED DRESS A luxe red dress is the new LBD. Wear it for daytime lunching or dinner and drinks – it’s ultra glamorous wherever you go. SUITABLY CHIC The work suit gets a modern revamp: think mismatched proportions and clashing tones. PEARLS OF WISDOM We love the idea of built-in accessories on a garment. Pearl detailing finishes off this blazer the way buttons or zips usually would. CENTRE OF ATTENTION If both your skirt and your shirtsleeves are voluminous, you need to balance it out somehow. This bejewelled waist belt does just that, cinching you in at the…

1. What would your last (three-course!) meal be? Anything that I didn’t have to cook and it would be nice to have my family and my boyfriend Phil there and someone to tidy and wash up afterwards. 2. Which would you rather give up if you had to: tomatoes or lemons? Definitely lemons, and not because I don’t like them. If you have my new cookbook, I have an entire chapter dedicated to the tomato and they are so versatile, good for you and you can make a variety of recipes from the simple tomato. I would miss my lemon wedge in my cider in the evening though… 3. What is your favourite local food? Gesmoorde snoek! My dad smokes his own snoek at home in a large drum covered…

… is on 7 July. Who knew?! And we think an appropriate celebration would be to pair good chocolate with fine wine, as Groot Constantia suggest. Their tastings of five carefully selected wines paired with five different chocolates sound fabulous: ‘As the chocolate melts you begin to taste an intense flavour of Morello cherries, followed by cinnamon and spices. Then a small sip of Pinotage reveals scents of bright red fruit, blackberries and liquorice…’ Sounds good to us! This special pairing happens every day at Groot Constantia and costs R125 per person. www.grootconstantia.co.za…

1 THE LITTLE BOOK OF FEMINIST SAINTS BY JULIA PIERPONT This is a great idea and such a lovely book: rather than just a collection of biographies, each of the 100 women featured (the ‘Matron Saints’) is described by an anecdote that illustrates why they were such powerful women – and are still such powerful role models. These are secular saints, but each is awarded a ‘Saint’s Day’ on which they should be celebrated. I’d like to buy a copy for every girl I know. 2 FLEETWOOD MAC’S ‘RUMOURS’ I’m having my own quiet little throwback moment. And damn, it’s a good album! 3 GRAHAMSTOWN NATIONAL ARTS FESTIVAL 28 JUNE–8 JULY Book your tickets at www.nationalartsfestival.co.za– there’s a lot to see, so get in there quickly! 4 FATHERS…

MR BEAR & MR CAT How cute are these? When you first see these cups on a shelf, they look like plain white mugs with just a pair of ears on them, but when someone is sipping a hot drink from one of them, you catch a glimpse of the rest of the face, hidden away on the base. They’re actually meant for kids, so they’re quite small, but no one is stopping you from using them as espresso mugs. Sugar & Vice launched this range last year with some wildly popular bunny mugs and they’ve added bears with party hats and smiling kitties to the mix. The little ones go for R175 and a big-and-small mug set for R325. – Liesl Playing it by ear Seven years ago I…

‘I learned from a very early age about the importance of gathering, marking events big and small, and enjoying the company of people who matter to you most.’ Her parents, says Kate, both had demanding careers, but made a point of keeping the family close. ‘Despite [a lot of travel, busy schedules and many responsibilities], they were always present for us kids, and let us know that our time together was meaningful by making the most of it, which in our house meant lots of food, drink, conversation, and laughter. For our big, crazy blended family, they made it a priority to preserve what you might consider traditional values in a very non-traditional life.’ All her friends gravitated to her house, and there were often 15 to 20 at the…

SARAH (55)& STEVEN (56) Married out of community of property, with accrual. They have two teenage children. ‘We got married in our thirties, so we had accrued some wealth and property and thought it would be cleaner and easier to leave it like that,’ says Sarah. ‘Also, my dad was a lawyer and insisted that we didn’t marry in community of property. But our view was that after our marriage, and specifically after having children, all decisions, including financial, would be taken for the combined good of our family. ‘I’m not sure if inheritance is excluded from the accrual bit (neither of us inherited anything, which made it easier), but if it is, then perhaps that should also be taken into account: I wouldn’t expect 50% of anything my husband…

GETTING THERE There are several ways to get to Ulaanbaatar. The main flight routes are via Istanbul, Hong Kong, Beijing and Seoul. Getting to the remote Taiga requires advanced horse riding skills, as you will be riding on semi-wild horses and over rugged terrain. Although you can also fly into Mörön and start the off-road journey from there, it is important to know that the entire trip involves significant travel costs. Many visitors underestimate this expense and the fact that it takes the careful coordination of locals to make this happen. WHEN TO GO To enjoy an authentic experience, try to avoid the tourist crunch in July and August. September is a good month to visit – there should also be fewer insects around at that time of year. NEED…

Golden lattes may sound a little too Gwyneth to be taken seriously, but turmeric is a favourite ancient Ayurvedic spice because of its excellent anti-inflammatory properties, high level of antioxidants and phytonutrients. Its main compound, curcumin, is what gives it that bright yellow colour, and it’s a brilliant health aid: apparently, among many other benefits, it also helps protect against colon, skin and pancreatic cancer. Here’s how to make a Golden Latte: INGREDIENTS: 2 cups almond or other non-dairy milk; 1 teaspoon turmeric; 1 teaspoon raw honey; ½ teaspoon ground cinnamon; 3 cardamom pods; small pinch of ground or fresh ginger; small pinch of black pepper. INSTRUCTIONS: Heat the milk on low. Add the turmeric, cinnamon, cardamom, raw honey and pepper and keep stirring for about 3 min (the milk…

Let’s just get one thing clear, right off the bat. I am not a morning person. (Now there’s an understatement. I can just imagine my brother snickering at the very idea.) If I were to be completely honest, I’m writing this very sentence in bed, on my phone, in the dark because my laptop is in another room and I can’t face getting up. According to Hal Elrod, author of international bestseller The Miracle Morning (which I’m reading only for the purpose of writing this article; the title would usually put me right off), your mornings set the tone for the day, and on a grander scale, your entire life. No pressure, hey, Hal. (I already don’t like where this is going.) ‘How you wake up each day and your…

Assess the quality of the fabric and thickness of the blanket. INTERNAL WIRING: Some blankets have very thin layers of fabric over the wiring, which can be uncomfortable. Choose a blanket that minimises your contact with the wires. CONTROLS: Make sure they’re user-friendly and that the display is large or clear enough to see in the dark. TIMER: Allows you to pre-set a heat setting at a particular time. DUAL CONTROLS: Each side of a blanket can be heated separately so couples can choose their own preferences. OVERHEAT PROTECTION: The blanket automatically shuts off when the temperature climbs too high. Sensors allow you to keep your blanket at a consistent temperature. EXTRA FOOT WARMTH: Some blankets have a slightly higher temperature at the bottom to keep your feet warm. WATERPROOF…

MUSHROOM AND THYME SOUP WITH ROQUEFORT CROUTONS We love a smooth mushroom soup, but we also love the meaty texture of whole mushroom, so here we’ve gone for both. For the mushrooms to top the soup, use flat mushrooms or Swiss browns or, if you’re lucky enough to find them, pine mushrooms or trompettes work beautifully. Serves 4 Prep time: 20 min. Cooking: 30 min • 20g dried porcini • 60g butter, coarsely chopped • 70ml olive oil • 1 leek, thinly sliced • 10 garlic cloves (2 finely chopped, and 8 bruised with the flat of a knife) • 750g flat mushrooms, coarsely chopped • 12 thyme sprigs, plus extra to serve • 1L (4 cups) chicken stock • 200g crème fraiche • finely grated zest and juice of…

PISSALADIÈRE When we were growing up, my dad used to make a pizza with olives and anchovies – I loved this pizza but had a problem with the melted cheese (I’m not big on melted cheese). In my first year of cookery school when they showed us how to make a classic French pissaladière, I was so excited that I think I made one weekly for about two years. Serves 8 Preparation time: 35 minutes Baking time: ±35 minutes Difficulty: Easy • 30ml olive oil • 1kg onions, thinly sliced • 2 cloves garlic, crushed • 15ml sugar • 15ml finely chopped fresh thyme • 2.5ml salt • 1ml black pepper • ½ quantity Basic Bread Dough (recipe on page 110) • 50g anchovy fillets (drained weight) • 1 handful…

THE MAN WHO DIDN’T CALL BY ROSIE WALSH I know – the title makes it sound like the follow-up to He’s Just Not That Into You, but it’s not like that at all. The internet informs me that this book falls into a genre called ‘romantic suspense’ – new to me, but pretty apt. Sarah meets Eddie during a walk through the English countryside and they hit it off right away, spending the next six days getting to know each other – and falling in love. Eddie has to leave on a long-booked holiday to Spain, but promises Sarah he’ll be in touch later that same day. But then a whole day passes, and another, and another… Eddie hasn’t called – and he’s not answering his phone or responding to…

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WINNING LETTER What’s in a name? I have been reading FAIRLADY for decades, and over the years I have thought that a name change should happen – that the principle of Eliza Doolittle who had to transform herself to have value in society was no longer relevant. But after reading a really special edition [April 2018], I realised that the magazine celebrates and affirms women in our highest and lowest moments. We have redefined ‘lady’, and we are fair to ourselves and the world. Reading FAIRLADY challenges me to think, makes me smile and may bring a tear to my eye. The magazine is old with wisdom and young with ideas. You might change your look, but don’t ever change your ethos. May we always have to strap ourselves in…

Bloom & Bale MARE-ALETNEL Start-up costs: R500 000 Turnover: This is year one. We foresee the turnover to be R1 ,5m She began her career in digital media, but when Mare-Alet Nel gave birth to her first daughter, Isabella, in 2009, it prompted her to re-evaluate her priorities and open her eyes to other opportunities – specifically entrepreneurship. When Isabella turned three, Mare-Alet started looking for Afrikaans educational toys and couldn’t find any, so decided to make her own. She started Diere Maatjies, a range of Afrikaans-speaking toys (they speak when you squeeze the paws!) in 2012, then launched Bloom & Bale a year ago after seeing a gap in the market for good, affordable bed linen. ‘You need to pursue something you’re passionate about,’ says Mare-Alet. ‘That’s why I…

Helen and Michael, who live in Joburg, had been dating for eight years when they decided to make it official. ‘It’s the second time around for both of us,’ says Helen. ‘We had each been divorced for at least 10 years when we met and were very aware of the fact that if we were going to commit to each other, as we did, then it would have to be in a neutral space that both of us contributed to.’ Helen’s two daughters also had to be taken into consideration. ‘I have twin daughters and Michael doesn’t have children, so he didn’t want to feel as if he was invading my and the girls’ space,’ explains Helen. ‘One day he said, “Why don’t we build up?” So I said, “Yes,…

• Do not get into a car with a stranger. ‘A friend of mine did this recently and was sexually assaulted.’ • Do not leave your gym bag, your groceries, phone or anything on the car seat next to you. ‘Everything must go into the boot, or where it’s well hidden.’ • When you’re out and about, stay off your phone and watch what’s going on around you. ‘If you think you’re going to be hijacked, put your hazards on and drive in an erratic way. If potential hijackers know you’re onto them, it minimises your risk – criminals are cowards; to them, their safety and security comes first.’ • If your dogs bark constantly and you don’t take notice, you’re setting yourself up for disaster. ‘Thieves love dogs that…

With the fourth industrial revolution looming, now’s the time to reflect on what makes a winning team – and how to build one. Talent management strategies are vital to ensure a steady succession of smart, capable staff. Moreover, having the best people is important for business growth. But how does a business also create a culture that top performers want to be part of? It starts at the top: the more open, honest and ethical a leader is, the more these values will filter through the business. As a business owner, it’s imperative that you know what you want to achieve and what you stand for so you can provide a clear vision for your team. Here are a few building blocks to put a good talent management strategy in…

Q: Can the shingles vaccine help prevent cold sores? A: Unfortunately not – to explain why, you need to understand the herpes virus family that causes cold sores. One side of the family is the varicella-zoster virus, which causes chickenpox in children. After infection, it hides in the body, tucked away in the nerves. As an adult, it can reactivate, presenting as a rash of painful blisters called shingles that can last for about six weeks. It’s often called the ‘belt of roses’ due to the red colour and the pain, which feels like you’re being pricked by 100 thorns. (Last year I had shingles on my tummy and can attest to that!) Before children were vaccinated, they may have come into contact with chickenpox more often, which…

If you consider that a third of your life will be spent sleeping, the necessity of having a great bed becomes clear. Slumberland beds are known for their comfort, superior support and restorative quality – and the sleep experience has just got more luxurious with the MOONLIGHT by Slumberland collection. In seductive shades that capture the dreamy glow of a moonlit evening, MOONLIGHT by Slumberland uses Affinity™ technology to create enveloping comfort and reduce restlessness with upper layers that mould to your individual shape. Have the kind of refreshing sleep you’ve only ever dreamed of, with MOONLIGHT by Slumberland. Visit www.slumberland.co.za or email slumberland@bgsp.co.za for more information about their ranges. HOW TO ENTER: SMS the keyword SLUMBERLAND, along with the answer, your full name, physical or postal address and email…

Although Liezel’s naturally curly hair is shoulder-length, she says it takes her about 45 minutes to do in the morning – which includes using a hairdryer and flat iron to smooth it out, bit by bit. It also means an early wake-up. ‘Great!’ says Marios Atzemoglou, founder and creative director of Marios Company Hair. ‘The Brazilian Blowout saves loads of time!’ At the salon, Marios, who is part of the L’Oréal Creative Team, assessed Liezel’s hair: ‘A great thing about this treatment is that you can have your colour done on the same day,’ he says. The treatment’s also great if you want to improve the overall condition of your hair.’ The product itself is a ‘liquid keratin treatment that smooths the cuticle by adding a protective protein layer…

Some good news and some bad news… First the bad: Because of the drought, South Africa is set to produce nearly 30% less wine this year than last. Remember to stock up! Then the good: The drought enhances the taste of the grape. So while there will be less of it, the wine itself will be spectacular. Again, stock up! Don’t say we didn’t warn you… ’ALLO ’ALLO! If you’re feeling a bit French this month, make your way to the 25th annual Franschhoek Bastille Festival on 14 and 15 July, when the town dons its stripes and berets, slaps a baguette under its arm and embraces its Huguenot heritage with joie. There are wonderful ranges of Franschhoek wines and delicious eats on offer. Tickets (including a whole…

Thanks to all of you who submitted your selections for the funniest books your book club has read. We compiled a best-of list from all of them, so anytime you need a pick-me-up, just settle down with one of these – they’re guaranteed to make you laugh, and the best of them will also shift your perspective a little, as good humour does. This month’s winning book club (all five of your books ended up on our list!) is Word-Brained from Parktown North. This group of 12 women (‘12 is the best number, because one gets to host every month’) has been together for nine years. ‘We started when we all had young kids and desperately needed to get out of the house and have some fun,’ says Carin Mills,…

Cancer 21 Jun – 22 Jul Life is a pendulum – it swings between pleasure and pain. That’s how it goes. Keep this in mind whenever irksome circumstances and faltering relationships threaten your peace of mind. Being emotionally attuned to almost everyone and everything can be tiresome, but you can choose simply to observe the pendulum rather than swing wildly with it. Repeat to yourself: this too shall pass. Leo 23 Jul – 22 Aug Pack your bags. Any chance of a hiatus is over, quite suddenly, and you’re primed for a perfect move in the right direction. A leap of faith into bold new ventures is on the cards, purely because you’ve worked hard enough to earn it. Hug any opportunity to your chest and build on it bit…