Indholdsfortegnelse for April 2018 i Fairlady

Journalist Ronnie Polaneczky has a simple tip to make you a better listener, one she describes with a personal story in her TED Talk ‘The Power of Deliberate Listening’. After writing a story about a woman whose son had been murdered, Ronnie received an angry phone call from a reader. ‘My son was murdered,’ the woman said. ‘You didn’t write about him. You didn’t ask about my grief. How do you decide what to put in that paper anyway? I guess you didn’t care about my son and you sure didn’t care about me.’ She accused Ronnie of being cruel, ignorant and arrogant. Ronnie was infuriated: how dare this stranger accuse her of such things? But, Ronnie says, as she listened to the flurry of insults, her own anger began…

On the motorway back to Venice a ferocious summer storm blows in suddenly from the Adriatic. The sky convulses with lightning and thunder; the gales and rain are so intense our wipers threaten to fly off. Hail clatters violently on roofs, doors, windscreens, forcing panicked drivers to pull sharply onto the shoulder and sit there, lights blinking madly, to wait out the onslaught. And just like that, the spell is broken. The days I’ve just spent hiking through Slovenia and Italy have been incredibly charmed. After the first outing I write in my notes, ‘What a magical walk’ – not realising then that every day will be as exhilarating. It’s a week of perfumed wildflowers on hot June days, birdsong in beech forests, icy swims in turquoise rivers and daily…

BARCELONA: Any residence rented out to tourists must be registered with the Tourism Registry of Catalonia. If investigators seeking out illegal rentals discover that you aren’t registered – the number of investigators has been doubled in an effort to find offenders – you could be fined. NEW YORK CITY: Renting out a whole apartment for less than 30 days at a time, or even advertising one like this, is illegal. The city has also implemented a ‘one host, one home’ policy where hosts can have listings at a single address only. They can have several listings at that address but can’t have listings at different addresses. REYKJAVIK: A law was passed stating that individuals can rent out their property for up to 90 days a year without needing a licence…

DEMILEIGH’S NEW GIG Local beauty (& Miss Universe!) Demi-Leigh Nel-Peters has been named the latest ambassadress for professional haircare brand CHI. ‘My hair is an important part of who I am, and if it’s healthy and looks great, I feel confident,’ said Demi-Leigh. Having worked with CHI stylist Julián Maciás throughout the Miss Universe competition, Demi-Leigh already knows and loves the brand. ‘He understood my hair perfectly and knew exactly what I wanted and how to achieve the look.’ CHI is available from www.glamit.co.za Reese sees red Did you know that in 1912 Elizabeth Arden provided red lipstick to the suffragettes marching on Fifth Avenue? Now actress Reese Witherspoon has teamed up with the brand to create a limited-edition lippy in the ever-popular Red Door Red shade, in conjunction with…

ROAST STUFFED PORK LOIN WITH DRIED CLING PEACH & SAGE STUFFING Serves 8 Prep & cooking time: 3 hours • 2kg deboned pork loin, scored • 2 tbsp coarse salt • 2 tbsp vegetable oil For the stuffing 1 clove garlic, finely chopped 2 pork sausages, casings removed 50g dried, peeled cling peaches, finely chopped 50g fresh white breadcrumbs 5g fresh parsley, finely chopped 5g fresh sage, finely chopped 1 large egg sea salt and black pepper To serve Roast potatoes, sautéed baby leeks and cherry tomatoes, and fresh herbs to garnish 1. Place the loin rind side up on a board. Sprinkle the skin with salt and refrigerate for 1 hour, uncovered. Remove from the fridge, brush off the salt and pat the meat dry with paper towel to…

SCATTER CUSHIONS 1. Waterworks cover (R89) Illumina 2. Cover with bunny print (R129) H&M 3. Velvet cushion (R249) @ home 4. Sequin heart scatter (R379) Woolworths 5. Sunset Radiance in Aqua cover (R320) Indigi Designs 6. Lashes scatter (R1195) Weylandts 7. Paint pink scatter (R199) Volpes 8. Striped Dot in Nude Pink cover (R320) Indigi Designs 9. Slub-weave cover (R129) H&M 10 &12. Slubweave cover (R149) H&M 11. Sequinned cover (R229) H&M 13. Tahiti printed cover (R129) Sixth Floor @ Superbalist 14. Quilted velvet cover in burgundy (R229) H&M 15. Swiss cross scatter (R400) Mono Shop 16. Kew scatter (R299) Linen House @ Superbalist 17. Flamingo scatter (R299) Woolworths 18. Monkey palm oasis (R944) Esque 19. Gold modern damask scatter (R1 200) Liam Mooney 20. Borneo cover (R299) Grey Gardens…

DON’T MISS THE BOT RIVER BARRELS & BEARDS SHOWCASE if you’re as serious about fun as you are about wine. There’s something about the terroir in the Bot River valley that produces exceptional wines and absolutely bonkers winemakers, who all stop shaving during harvest, then fiercely compete for the Best Bot Beard. Barrels & Beards is always a completely mad event and always a brilliant party – helped along by (a lot of) very special wine and a feast of superb locally produced food. SATURDAY, 21 APRIL at Wildekrans Estate, 5pm. Tickets are R450 from www.quicket.co.za, or contact Ilse Henderson on 074 553 6953 or email ilze@endlessgroup.co.za THE VERGENOEGD PIZZA & WINE FESTIVAL is a gorgeous event to while away a golden autumn afternoon at. Take your picnic blanket and…

Aries 21 Mar – 19 Apr Whoa! Try pressing the ‘off’ button every so often during this spell, as the rest of us ain’t keeping up. Smothered in serendipitous energy and armed with a fit, fighting spirit, you’ll achieve almost everything necessary for a smooth ride and a spot of happiness over this period – but only if you remember to breathe. Spending time alone is vital if you’re going to forge ahead. Taurus 20 Apr – 20 May Yay for you! New connections and social intrigue are likely to leave you wanting more – so get your roots done and clear your schedules for interesting events and such. All play and no work has never matched your goal-getting mindset, but a bit more flash 'n flirt and less angst-ridden…

The passing of Pia-Alexa Duarte really hit me. I didn’t know her, except through her writing in FAIRLADY. I wasn’t her friend or part of her family, but her death truly moved me. Maybe because she was a young woman, like me, who probably thought she had loads of time left to live and maybe even took that time for granted. I have spent years in a job that, while it pays the bills and I am treated well, does not bring me joy. Lately I have been thinking a lot about that word ‘joy’ and what it means. I watch people going through the motions of life or stressed out of their minds, including myself and those I love, and I wonder what the point of it all is…

1. SILENCE. ‘Just three minutes a day of silence is a wonderful exercise to reset your ears and to recalibrate so you can hear the quiet again. If you can’t get absolute silence, go for quiet.’ 2. THE MIXER. The next time you’re in a noisy environment, try tuning into each individual sound around you. Ask yourself: ‘How many channels of sound can I hear? How many individual channels in that mix am I listening to?’ Julian suggests doing it when you’re out in nature too. ‘How many birds am I hearing? Where are they? It’s a great exercise for improving the quality of your listening.’ 3. SAVOURING. ‘This is a beautiful exercise – it’s about enjoying mundane sounds.’ To demonstrate this, Julian recorded the sound his tumble dryer makes…

Loss – it’s all around us, all the time. Nobody is unaffected and everybody’s response is different. Some deaths are sad but expected, and some knock the air right out of you. The words ‘orphan’ and ‘widow’ exist because these are deaths that happen in the normal course of life. Parents die; husbands die. But there’s no word for a parent who’s lost a child, perhaps because saying it, giving it a name, is too hard to bear. The loss of a child rocks you to your core. It is more loss than you can describe or ever anticipate. I am not a stranger to grief, loss and heartache. My mom died when I was eight; my dad and stepmom divorced when I was 18; I had cancer twice in…

JUST TO BE COMPLETELY CLEAR: we’re not talking about your wear-’em-around-the-house winter comfies, or repurposing your jogging gear – this laidback look is still sharp and streamlined. Choose a sleek pair with a stripe (or even a zipper or a row of buttons) down the side and pair it with a structured shirt and coat, ladylike accessories and a heel to finish. Finally, you can wear your tracksuit pants to the office!…

• If you’re pregnant or breastfeeding, Botox is not recommended. It’s an intra-muscular injection, but if you inject it into a vein or a vessel the baby could ingest it. • You can have Botox done almost anywhere on your body. The forehead and around the eyes are the most popular areas, but it could work on any facial muscle. You can also have it done on your décolletage and neck. And it helps with excessive sweating (hyperhidrosis), especially on the hands and underarms, as well as with incontinence – injecting Botox into the bladder wall can have a long-lasting impact on overactive bladder syndrome, a major cause of incontinence. • It can help you stop clenching your jaw. You need to be properly diagnosed in order to have this…

Nowadays, life is busy and all about the go-go-go – and your hair can be as overworked as you feel. Everything, from the weather to heated styling tools can contribute to damaged hair. Thankfully, the fabulous John Frieda Full Repair® range will fix dehydrated hair in need of TLC. The professionals at John Frieda expanded the range to include products specifically designed to target the damaged hair experienced by women the world over. Use the Full Repair® Strength & Restore Shampoo and Conditioner® together for effective results. Containing Inchi Inchi, a micro-oil rich in omega-3, they repair and nourish, and reduce the risk of breakage. And they’re safe for colour-and chemically treated hair, too. The Full Repair® Intensive Treatment Masque strengthens hair to fight breakage and further damage and adds…

CHERRY PARFAIT Serves 4 Prep & cooking time: 20 minutes 2tbspcastorsugar 3cup30ml) water 2 cups (300g) fresh or frozen seeded cherries, halved 1 1/3 cups (375g) skim milk yoghurt 2 tsp vanilla extract pinch ground cinnamon 2 tbsp rolled oats, toasted fresh cherries, to serve 1. Combine the sugar, water and cherries in a medium saucepan; bring to the boil. Reduce the heat; simmer, uncovered, for 2 minutes or until the syrup thickens. Leave to cool. 2. Combine the yoghurt, extract and cinnamon in a small bowl. 3. Divide half the cherry mixture between four ¾-cup (180ml) glasses. Top with half the yoghurt, then the remaining cherry mixture and yoghurt. Sprinkle with the oats and extra cherries just before serving. Per serve 1g total fat (0.2g saturated fat);…

We’ll never give up our burgers, boeries and bunny chows, but the SA street food scene’s been given a shot in the arm with the introduction of some great international flavours. These days you’re as likely to enjoy anything from a Spanish paella at a street market to a perfect poké bowl from a trendy city takeaway. Here are some great streateries and food trucks to try… JOZI MARTHA’S MOJO AMEXICANO. These popular food trucks can be found at markets and expos as well as events. Tex-Mex is perrenially popular, and Gauteng locals are loving Amexicano’s fiery chilli poppers, drunken chicken tacos and hearty chilli con carne. They also serve burgers. Visit www.marthasmojo.co.za/content/landing/amexicano for upcoming events. CAPE TOWN HOKEY POKE BAR & TAKEAWAY There’s nothing hokey pokey about this Hawaiian…

‘Women are told early on that they will have to choose between having a career or having a family with children. But I haven’t chosen – it’s possible to have everything.’ Indigo Kulani Group Owner: Sibongile Manganyi-Rath Start-up costs: R15000, which was my salary at the time. Turnover: Over R100 million a year. When, at the age of 26, Sibongile started what would become an infrastructure and property development business, she was inspired by two things: a desire to change the male-dominated industry she was in, and the example her father had set for her. ‘My father was an informal fresh produce trader who taught me the basic principles of selling, customer service, staying competitive and being dedicated to a task,’ she says. ‘He did it in a very simple…

Q: What is your feeling about HRT? I keep hearing conflicting information. I’m in my early 50s and have been in menopause for over a year, but other than vaginal dryness and interrupted sleep, I don’t seem to have many other symptoms. A: This is an important question. Understanding the risks and benefits of HRT will help you make a good decision based on your symptoms. Discuss this with your doctor, who can use some of the guidelines available to show you what the science-based evidence for your situation is. There is an increased risk of breast cancer with the combined HRT given to women who still have a womb, so screening is really important. HRT does not increase the risk of heart disease in women below 50,…

HOSTS - 16 000 – number of people who have hosted in the past year - R28 000 – annual earnings for a typical host - 16 – nights hosted per year GUESTS Airbnb hosts welcomed almost 400 000 guests to South Africa in 2016. This has grown from 38 000 guests on Airbnb in 2014. More than half these guests are international travellers. LOCAL ECONOMY The Airbnb community generated R2,4 billion in total economic activity in South Africa in 2016, which is the estimated sum of guest spending and host income. - R817 million – income earned by local households - R1.6 billion – estimated guest spending by Airbnb guests - R2.4 billion – estimated economic activity generated by Airbnb hosts and guests CAPE TOWN Airbnb hosts welcomed almost…

❛ I feel confident in this brand. Like I have all eyes in the room on me – and not because of my size. ❜– CANDICE BRESLER, BLOGGER.WWW.DAMSELINADRESS.CO.ZA • As a man and woman designing together, what does each of you bring to the table? BRIDGET: Creative collaboration is at the heart of our brand, so together we hope we have all the angles covered, from the aesthetic to fit and quality. Most importantly, we have a constant dialogue around the needs of the woman we’re designing for; how our designs boost her confidence and add value to her busy lifestyle. • We love that you’ve catered for women of all sizes in your latest collection. LUDWIG: We’ve been astounded by the lack of options curvy women have in the…

Kelli Clifton, beauty editor Sisley Black Rose Cream Mask, R1990 ‘Don’t let the price make you break out in a cold sweat; I use it only when my skin feels particularly dull and lacklustre. It’s a regular feature on Beauty eds’ “top 10 products of all time” lists for a reason – it really is something special. You’re supposed to leave it on for 10 to 15 minutes (I prefer to keep it on for as long as possible) before removing excess product with a cotton pad. And yes, it does smell like a rose garden, without being overpowering. Next morning, my skin feels soft and bump-free again, as if I’d had a mini facial the night before. A little goes a long way with this cult Sisley mask, so…

SCOTCH EGGS Serves 6 Prep time: 30 minutes Cooking time: 20 minutes 600gporkmince ½ onion, finely chopped 2 cloves garlic, finely chopped 1½ tbsp Dijon mustard 1 tbsp Worcestershire sauce 1 tbsp thyme 1 tsp Tabasco Sauce, or to taste 6 eggs, at room temperature, plus 2 extra eggs, lightly beaten, for egg wash seasoned plain flour, for dusting 3 cups (150g) fine dried breadcrumbs vegetable oil, for deep-frying lime wedges, to serve For the lemon mayonnaise 2eggyolks 2 tbsp white wine vinegar 1½ tbsp Dijon mustard 350ml olive oil finely grated zest and juice of 1 lemon 1. Combine the pork, onion, garlic, mustard, Worcestershire, thyme and Tabasco in a bowl. Season; refrigerate until needed. 2. For the lemon mayonnaise: Place the egg yolks, vinegar and mustard…

AT THE FIRST LIGHT  The Woven Necklace Lampshade was inspired by African beaded necklaces. Made with wooden rings and woven wax thread, it comes in a variety of colour combinations with either a black or neutral base. Each layer of the lampshade can be adjusted to change up the angles and alignments, creating a play of light and shadow through the woven thread. Modern Gesture ( moderngesture.co.za ) Inspired by nature and geometry, the Love Clover pendant lamps are made from curtains of ball-chain suspended from laser-cut steel frames. This particular range (there are a few variations, namely the Biglove, the Babylove, the Secretlove and the Luckylove) has a four-leaf clover design, which translates into voluptuous, heart-shaped pendant lamps. Willowlamp ( www.willowlamp.com )…

Kelli Clifton, beauty editor: ‘ My Story, fragrance entrepreneur Jo Malone’s autobiography. It touched me because she’s so honest about everything, from her dyslexia and battle with breast cancer to the inspiration behind her fragrances. She made me want to follow my dreams, regardless of the obstacles.’ Marli Meyer, features writer: ‘ Tuesdays With Morrie. I read it when I was 15 – it made me realise at quite a young age that time with the people you love is the most valuable thing, and that time is the one thing you’ll never have enough of. It's a major tear-jerker, but it really changed the way I saw things.’ Sameena Amien, chief subeditor: Moon Tiger As historian Claudia Hampton lies dying, she tells…

Adidas www.adidas.co.za @home 0860 666 674 www.home.co.za Avène www.eau-thermale-avene.co.za Avon 0860 102 345 www.avonjustine.co.za Bulgari available at selected retailers or call 021 442 7700 for stockists’ details Chanel available at selected Edgars stores or call 021 442 7700 for stockists’ details Chi www.glamit.co.za Clarins available at selected Edgars, Foschini, Red Square, Truworths and Woolworths stores Elizabeth Arden available at selected Edgars, Foschini, Red Square, Truworths and Woolworths stores, and selected pharmacies Esque www.esque.co.za Gatineau available at selected beauty salons, Truworths and Woolworths stores, and at Dis-Chem and other pharmacies Gucci Guilty available at Red Square and Edgars stores Foschini 0860 104 764 H&M 0860 690 707, 021 826 7451 www.hm.com/za/ Illumina 021 534 3636 www.illumina.co.za Indigi Designs 021 447 0165 John Frieda available at selected Clicks stores Klûk CGDT 083 377 7780 Lancôme 0860 102 491 Liam…